have a problem, need cub and cougar advice

[lisa0licious]

okay so my cub, love him to pieces, just adore him, right, so we have seen each other for 4 months and i mean 4 months, every single night, ever single weekend for 4 months...so he breaks up with me last monday - so tuesday i am texting a dude of course, and wednesday more and then a little sexting, cause really no reason why not..so cub'ilicious - decides friday he changed his mind..great...fine..giddy up...so sunday after spending the weekend, i leave him in my car, he see's my blackberry, read it and saw the texts and freaks out and says, that's it..so...IS THERE ANY ONE HERE THAT SERIOUSLY thinks i shouldn't be able to text and move on when he dumped me?

[bayridgebabe]

Screw the old cub, not literally of course, lol . You ave every right to do what you wanted to do. He did break-up with you. How dare he get all bent out of shape. This is where his immaturity came into play. I personally wouldn't have sexted (sexting) anyone (that's me). If it worked for you & obviously it did, then I say go for it. Your "ex" needs to grow up & fast. Again, in my eyes you did NOTHING WRONG as he broke up with you & you were a free woman to do as you please & see fit to do. BRAVO to you!!!!

[lisa0licious]

you know that is what i thought, i was like, dude, you broke up with me, i gave you every opportunity to come around - and really why is he offended i moved on to a new cub so quick, i didn't meet see anyone, i didn't talk to anyone on the phone last week, just texted and the cub wrote one sexy text and i replied..and literally he just said threw a fit and said, that is it we are over..blah blah blah..of course he is talking to me today..so it is immaturity right?

[lisa0licious]

hey THANK YOU for the answer btw...i appreciate it, this dating a younger man is new for me so i confused me completely his reaction.

[sexy_pleasure]

I think that one of the reasons younger man find us atractive is because we know what we want, don't you agree?
If what you want is him, why are you looking for the next "Dude" available as soon as you can?
Because "cub'ilicious" said later...?

Ok you want to move on, I understand that. But if that is the case, why are you taking him back?
I do not get it...

[lisa0licious]

You know, i didn't break up with him, he broke up with me, i was very happy with him..i was just chatting with a "potential" cub, not setting up a date just preparing to be on the prowl..why take him back?? i never wanted to be done with him, so my question is aren't i free to do whatever i want when we are broken up? His thing was, i didn't give it enough time etc..I just went really? what exactly is the appropriate amount of time to start talking to someone after you break up? he said i should have known we weren't done because we kept talking and texting each other, i said, no, you say done, i assume you mean what you say and say what you mean?

[lisa0licious]

oh and i think all men find a woman who knows what she wants attractive..just this cub thing, has me totally perplexed...his reaction to something i did when we weren't together..

[_CougarHunting_]

Ummmm ok he, dump's you after 4 month's. Right. A relationship in which im sure you were probly hurt. Day's go by and your having fun with some one else right ?. Then get's all jealous when he find's out you been texting some one else after deciding all the sudden he wants to get back with you.

Drop him like a $2.00 Beer and find another.

He shouldn't even react to fact that you were having fun with some one else. During the time you were not together in a relationship. He's acting like a child.

[budder8818]

Lisa,

If I understand this correctly: You are feeling guilty about texting another guy after your old boyfriend cub dumped you? OR sexting?

Well I wouldn't feel to bad, after all he dumped you. And you were just talking or texting another man. i guess sexting is alittle more...?

Just move on.

[houstoncougar]

oh nooooooooo budder she's not feeling guilty at all and she shouldn't be he broke up with her and she was a free woman at the time.