04-23-2011, 10:21 PM
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I think the reason many older women shy away from men in their early twenties is because they realise that most men of that age group are still finding their feet in terms of relationships and interactions with the opposite sex. That is certainly not a bad thing, and developmentally it is important - after all, you are still figuring out who you are and what you want out of life.
However, despite the media's interpretation of the whole older woman/younger men dynamic, most of us are not looking to be teachers, mentors or simply an "older woman experience". Most of the qualities we admire in younger men tend to come out in force as they reach their late twenties and early thirties, which is the age group many older women seem to cite as their preference. Of course there are exceptions...but exceptions are rare.
There is also the fact that many women simply refuse to date anyone younger than their own children. It's a personal preference and you can't do anything about it.
Redfox - perhaps inadvertently? - made a valuable point with his post. He stated that when he was 20, he was able to date women 12-20 years older. That would make them 32-40. Again, thanks to the media, "cougars" are generally typecast as being over 40 which means that the younger "older" women are not well represented on this site. So, it might be that men in their early twenties, looking to date older, might have more success on sites where they can meet women in that 30-40 age group. As a bonus though, those women are unlikely to have children older than men in the 20-25 age group, so that wouldn't be a hindrance.
BTW, I prefer Vegemite to Marmite.
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