When women get older, do their priorities change?

[tony343]

I was wondering, I hear alot of stories about how women, when they were in their 20's, dated the bad boys, got pregnant, and then the father dumps them, or whatever horror stories of the bad experiences some of these ladies had.

When they get older 30's, 40's, and 50's.....after having had such experiences, I have noticed, in some instances that their priorities change, they realize the "nerdy" guy they rejected or "Friendzoned" is now the BETTER alternative these days.

Has this happened to you? Have you decided to date the "shorter" guy or the "nice guy with the receding hairline" as opposed to the 6 feet tall, dark and handsome types that you used to date in your 20's?

I'm not trying to accuse or anything, just trying to get an education on this cougar site. It appears I can learn alot from this site, receive alot of insight as well. Perhaps I can learn something here.

[orchidsandsilk]

Priorities change with age. When a gal is in her 20's and 30's, a guy to father children, build a nest with is a high priority. "Biological clock" and all that. Of course we are not addressing those who choose guys for physical/attraction reasons and end up having the child(ren) without the ring.

But in general, once a woman achieves the stage where she has had her children, is not under pressure to build a family again, she is freer to enjoy men as companions -- and not look at every guy as a prospective lifelong mate. The relationship can be a freer one then -- without the heavy agendas -- together because one just wants to be -- and let things just take their natural course.

That's at least one gal's take on it.

[trophywife4fun]

I've never dated a short guy but will note we are all about the same height laying down. I love nerdy guys and always have.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by trophywife4fun

I've never dated a short guy but will note we are all about the same height laying down. I love nerdy guys and always have.

Only if you did not live in NorCal.......

hmm interesting question! I guess some women change priorities, and others remain more constant in their decision making. For me, it's the mr nice guy that gets my vote all the time! Most women find them boring, but I dig up more into the depths of the personality (and love making them tick and loose their temper!) Did it 20 years ago, and still doing it! Mr Nice guy for me! Armed with patience, and ready to be challenged to the extreme!

[raywhi5]

hey! i was that nerd guy =(

[xonoseeummsxo]

I have never leaned so much on looks but on their sensitivity ...

[bluesybil]

I'm sure priorities change over time. I think that's normal and comes with experience and time as a matter of course. Never wanted kids or to do the conventional. Although everyone kept insisiting that would change one day. ::shrug:: I'm fine with it...I think I was born without a biological clock..lol However I'm more settled myself now so am less apt to gravitate towards situations that are overly chaotic than I was when I was younger.

As for choice of partners, its never been so much physical as it was mental that attracted me. Sure most everyone likes pretty people superficially, but there has to be a heck of a lot more to a guy than that for me at least. If there's not mental/emotional click I really can't drum up a whole lot of physical interest. Never could.

I've always been attracted to the quiet ones, the introspective, the poets, the "nerds", the philosophers and the thinkers... still waters run deep and all that

[sudojudo]

I have noticed, in some instances that their priorities change, they realize the "nerdy" guy they rejected or "Friendzoned" is now the BETTER alternative these days.

tony343,

There are just too many experiences to figure out a general rule about the way people change. For me, the change is dating younger men instead of older men. When I was in my 20's, the young guys just tried too hard to be something they were not, it was a real put off. Now that I'm the senior one in the relationship, I love the way a young guy will just give up on trying to be...well, I guess something that he's not. I have noticed that younger men act differently towards me as opposed to a younger female.

[desertfish]

Originally Posted by sudojudo

I love the way a young guy will just give up on trying to be...well, I guess something that he's not. I have noticed that younger men act differently towards me as opposed to a younger female.

You see SJ, I think that is exactly the reason why younger guys like to date mature women. It gives them the chance to be themselves.