When women get older, do their priorities change?

[tony343]

I was wondering, I hear alot of stories about how women, when they were in their 20's, dated the bad boys, got pregnant, and then the father dumps them, or whatever horror stories of the bad experiences some of these ladies had.

When they get older 30's, 40's, and 50's.....after having had such experiences, I have noticed, in some instances that their priorities change, they realize the "nerdy" guy they rejected or "Friendzoned" is now the BETTER alternative these days.

Has this happened to you? Have you decided to date the "shorter" guy or the "nice guy with the receding hairline" as opposed to the 6 feet tall, dark and handsome types that you used to date in your 20's?

I'm not trying to accuse or anything, just trying to get an education on this cougar site. It appears I can learn alot from this site, receive alot of insight as well. Perhaps I can learn something here.

[tarni]

Hummm, I would have to say that experiences change anyone's priorities and you only gain expereinces with age. Okay, you can learn experiences at a younger age through your family and friends but you have to be willing to learn. Some people dont ever learn and get stuck in the same ol' rutt all their lives (ie, being attracted to bad boys can be a lifetime curse).

I would hope that we are the learning kind of people and we do change our priorities as we age - for the better.

[orchidsandsilk]

Priorities change with age. When a gal is in her 20's and 30's, a guy to father children, build a nest with is a high priority. "Biological clock" and all that. Of course we are not addressing those who choose guys for physical/attraction reasons and end up having the child(ren) without the ring.

But in general, once a woman achieves the stage where she has had her children, is not under pressure to build a family again, she is freer to enjoy men as companions -- and not look at every guy as a prospective lifelong mate. The relationship can be a freer one then -- without the heavy agendas -- together because one just wants to be -- and let things just take their natural course.

That's at least one gal's take on it.

[trophywife4fun]

I've never dated a short guy but will note we are all about the same height laying down. I love nerdy guys and always have.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by trophywife4fun

I've never dated a short guy but will note we are all about the same height laying down. I love nerdy guys and always have.

Only if you did not live in NorCal.......

[patriciacamilles]

hmm interesting question! I guess some women change priorities, and others remain more constant in their decision making. For me, it's the mr nice guy that gets my vote all the time! Most women find them boring, but I dig up more into the depths of the personality (and love making them tick and loose their temper!) Did it 20 years ago, and still doing it! Mr Nice guy for me! Armed with patience, and ready to be challenged to the extreme!

[raywhi5]

hey! i was that nerd guy =(