"Awww, you're just a baby!!"

It all depends on the guy's attitude. I'm no cougar but was approached several times at the pool by younger men. All is in the attitude. Once one of them got rather close, and was sexy even though 20 years younger than me, but his attitude ruined everything so I clammed down. Couldn't stand the cockiness. Never done it before but all is in the attitude. The answer you're too young is a generic answer. Depends on the tone and way it was given.

It is quite frustrating at times. My problem is, some older women write us younger guys off without giving us a chance. There's good ones and bad ones in our age group, just as there is with older guys. I just wish more older woman would judge just based on how the person is, rather than just by hearing their age, if that makes sense.

That is very true! I've brushed off a few because I was unprepared for being hit on by younger guys so you must persevere patiently. For a woman like me who is not specific to younger men at all but comfortable with a good guy, I will need more gentle persuasion to venture with a younger guy, because it is again my principles and ethos. But, if you give time for the lady to adapt, you may be surprised! Good luck, and persevere patiently but remain at all times a true gentleman as the odds are against you! Good luck x Patricia

Yeah, and as rotten as it sounds, sometimes I don't volunteer my age right away til after I've been talking to her a bit. I A)look older than I really am, B)People soon find I act more mature than a lot of guys my age. I mean if asked, I'll say my age and be honest, but if I'm not asked, I withhold it for a bit. Its the only reason I was able to be in a long distance relationship with a woman 13 years older than myself. When we first started talking(we met on a message board and she didn't really check my profile when I responded to a personal ad she put on it), we hit it off well, then the next day I was like "Ok, so my age isn't a problem"? And she was like "Oh...ha ha...I didn't even think to ask. Why would it be?" and I told her that there was a 13 year age difference between me and her, and she was like "Well...had I known that from the start I would've probably turned you down, but we're getting along great, you are mature for your age so I see no reason not to continue!". We met and spent 2 wonderful days together, but we ended up breaking up for a variety of reasons, and unfortunately I was more mature than she was it seemed. So, I'm not sure if this is considered an "acceptable" tactic, but its served me well so far in getting older women to judge me for me, and not my age.

Originally Posted by toriw

Wow, cougars at age 23? phew.......

I am fifty and when a cougar my age states, "Aww, youre just a baby" it usually means, "You have some learning to do". Could be I want to teach you or just that someone needs to teach you. I would suppose it depends on how YOU react to the "awww..." dont you think?

At 37 I thought I pretty much would qualify as cougar but then I came across an invite to a party at restaurant for younger men and older women...for women over 40! I guess I have a little ways to go?

As for comments, I think it comes down to how they're intoned. I love a boyish "look". Maybe it's because I'm attracted to a playful spirit. So, if I made a comment like that, if a guy could roll with it, I'd love it. I think it'd show confidence too, which is something that, if anything, younger men sometimes lack...even though they probably don't need to. Must just be how people are socialized in this sorts of inter-age situations.

[airmanmechanic]

I get that all the time (But then again most 19 year olds are boys). Really, I've gotten it so much now it doesn't even bother me. It's funny that I get it so much too because women (I should say girls lol) in my age group write me off as being too young also.

I just try to roll with it, if they aren't interested they will tell you and if they are you may get a phone number out of it. (or even more....)

Age is a state of mind. I've met 50 year old men who act like babies
and a 29 year old Veteran from the Iraqi War who was far more
wiser than any college professor. I have to smile. I wish someone
thought I was too young. Some people think I'm in my thirties
which is wonderful. Sometimes handsomeness and beauty are
truly ageless. Oh, don't worry. When the right person comes along,
she will not care about age. She will love your heart. One young
man came into our office shinning about his wife who is 20 years older.
The joy on his face and then the pictures of them together, smiling.
Now that's love! I notice something odd. Older men do not say that
to young women in their 20's who they date. So, why should women
treat adult men in their 20's any different. People are people and
all want to feel they have worth and wisdom. Yes?

--Sabrina

[veronicadefranco]

The words "Awww you're just a baby"...need to be taken in the context in which they are delivered and the "inflection" of voice that is used.
Remember Tony343, MOST of what ANYONE is communicating... isn't with their words. *Smile*
Becoming adept in reading BODY LANGUAGE is a life skill that serves well in more than just the dating arena.

[elizagirl]

Now that you mention it, I'm afraid I have said that to someone I would have loved to have been approached by...but this guy still flirts with me regularly. Is he a baby...yes, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested..:-)

I look a bit younger than I am so I get that comment sometimes.