R.e.s.p.e.c.t

[laine175]

OK....this is my take on some of the guys that get jumped on in the forums...sometimes, admitedly....quite harshly....

I am very sure that most of the ladies here, including the one's like me that are looking for a relationship....have absolutely NO objections to anyone male or female that are pursuing a NSA encounter, I say...fill ya boots if that is indeed what floats your boat!!!

What I will say is this.....when you post in here regarding just that, think about what you are putting down on the boards....at the end of the day it's all about respect. If you are disrespectful on your approach to the ladies in here how can you ever expect a lady to trust you???

Does that make sense or am I just rambling lol.....it's a tendancy of mine!!

[wetnwild]

Laine, I absolutely agree with you 100%. And I admit too, that sometimes the guys do get jumped on a bit harshly. It's all in the presentation guys. If you come on here and say "hey ladies, come get my big 10 inches" or "I want to lick your **** (and yes it HAS happened many times before) then trust me, one of two things will happen. We will either laugh you off here or you will get a barrage of nasty comments right back at you. Crude, rude and overtly sexual comments will get you nowhere.

HOWEVER, if you come on here and introduce yourself nicely, tell us where you live etc, and NICELY say you would like to meet ladies for NSA sex then we will respect your wishes and wish you the best because who knows, there could be ladies reading this that are looking for just that.

It's all in the delivery. Thanks for posting this Laine.

[bayridgebabe]

Laine, it makes perfect sense & speaks volumes of what we want & are looking for. I have no objections to ANYONE seeking an NSA however, that's not what I want or seek, to each his/her own. RESPECT is definitely warranted & expected. So if you male or female come across as rude/disrespectful expect the same in return, as turn about id fair play.

[lynda]

Laine thank you for posting this. I think it all comes down to respect no matter what a person is doing in this life. It does have everything to do with how you come across. To many of the young guys think we are just desperate older women.....guys look at these women! Believe me there is nothing desperate about any of them. We enjoy talking to any of you guys so long as it is not rude or disrespectful.

[bigglesworth]

ditto all of the above for me

[champlakers]

I think a big part of why they tend to say these things is the way cougars are portrayed... Remember they are going off what they hear, so the first encounter with a cougar is you guys... It by no means makes the comments right, but at the same time they feel that that is what they are suppose to do act and you all will come flocking... They do learn quickly that that is not the way it goes but at the same time they are learning it "the hard way". I think there should be a sticky that every new guy has to read... So that way they are forewarned before opening their mouths in a disrespectful manner... Just me $.02...

[lynda]

Champs makes a lot of sense.....

[houstoncougar]

Yes, champs does have a point, but there is one thing he's missing. Even if all they are looking for is sex and the woman is too no one should be advertising on here like they are on adult friendfinder it is not that kind of site. If you want nsa then ask for it but, please don't use vulgar language or answer back with nasty, unacceptable, mouth should be washed out with soap comments. I for one can not believe some of the blatantly sexual and just downright vile comments I have heard from some of the young men who have been dissed. That just shows how childish, selfish and mean they really are and no, I will not excuse it as youthful male exuberance as some ladies would like to chalk it up too. That boys will be boys **** is something we have been trying to overcome for centuries. Goodness, if that's how they talk when someone they don't even know makes them mad then, what are they like when they are really angry with a date or companion if they don't get their way? Yep, laine's right it all boils down to RESPECT!!!

[laine175]

For those today that have written on the blogs that you have won a victory......


No you really haven't...see you were the ones insisting this wasn't a war....crusade...or personal.....actually by writing that blog you show it was exactly that....and the reason you started the war....your boy cutemale.....is still banned as are you....this thread was never designed as an explanation of what you percieve as US doing wrong...but as a lesson to the likes of your slaves....and yes I use that word deliberatly......to be aware of the reasons WHY we react the way we do.....you however try constantly to JUSTIFY the reasons that these boys are disrespectful.......well let me tell you.....you are VERY welcome to the disrespecful lttle boy trolls that hang off your every word...I as the other ladies you so revile on here have higher standards.........

[wetnwild]

VERY good post Laine!! It is amazing how they try to take credit for everything!! But I guess after both of them getting banned, they have to do something to try and save face, haha!! It is VERY amusing!! And they are certainly welcome to Zhan/Asda who will be banned from the site as soon as admin wakes up!

Champs, you make a very good point. And believe me, I have thought MANY times about doing a sticky just like you said. The problem is, we cannot MAKE anyone read anything. And I know all too well that new people never bother to read my stickies anyway. Case in point, my "Tips for Newbies" sticky in the intro section. How many times a day do guys come on here asking how to post a pic? Do you think they bothered to read that sticky looking for the answer?