Definate Presumptous snob

[tony343]

I saw this on another ad (a cougar , age 46, seeking only someone between 25 and 35)

Saw this explanation:

First of all, I'm NEVER available during the day...except for maybe an occasional weekend, so if that doesn't work for you, thanks but no thanks. If you even ask, that means you're not paying attention, which is an automatic deal breaker.

For a first meeting I have a new rule. I will not go out of my way to meet you. If I agree that you might be my type, I might let you come and see me at my karaoke show. I will not meet you anywhere else, don't even ask.

I do get invited to a lot of high-profile, formal functions, so it would be nice to have someone good looking, educated, well-mannered and articulate to take to these events.

I'm a huge foodie, so if you're a picky eater, I think that's girly and it's a big turn off. I'd like to meet someone who appreciates fine dining and fine wine...and of course...my cooking.

This woman annoys me already LOL! Sound like a Grade A Snob.

"If I agree that you might be my type, I might let you come and see me at my karaoke show."

Sheesh, get over yourself woman

This is funny and sad at the same time. I do understand her point, Tony. There are sooooo many time-wasters out there and many of us have gotten very fed up with guys who show interest, talk on the phone, promise to meet and then do a no show or call at the last minute with some of the most unbelieveable stories. I swear, some of them should write fiction....lol. I have heard of instances where a halfway meet was arranged and the guy was nowhere to be found. How would you feel if that happened to you? It, apparently, has happened to many of the good women on this site and others like it.

We DO have lives and most of us are established professionals whose time is limited. I can see how you might feel the way you expressed but when you get fed up, you get fed up. She's only doing what she feels is necessary to weed out the fakers, scammers and losers who would endlessly try to waste her time, emotion and money.
RR

[cleoquel]

Here's my take on it


"If you even ask, that means you're not paying attention, which is an automatic deal breaker."-- this means that this person has definite boundaries, and if you want a shot at getting to know her, one sign of respect is to acknowledge these boundaries. I dont have a specific boundary, but I will say, like the other poster said, I DO have a full time career and I will not or can not handle calls at work. Too many interruptions will make me drop someone like a dead mosquito.

"For a first meeting I have a new rule. I will not go out of my way to meet you. If I agree that you might be my type, I might let you come and see me at my karaoke show. I will not meet you anywhere else, don't even ask."--chalk this one up to internet safety, not personal *****iness (and trust me, I can use *****iness to my advantage to tantalize a young man, but I do this only after we have established a pattern of seeing each other, and I know we both get something out of it).

For what it's worth, I don't go out of my way to meet people either, but inevitably I do. Somehow, older age plus the phrase "never married, happily single" draws men like a magnet.

Keep in mind that a little caution does not mean a Not-Hot-Cougar. Go to the Karaoke night, see what happens, and make up your own mind.

--Cleo

[tony343]

Actually , most of her profile just REEKS of negativity. I've read ads similar to hers, and it's very obvious how bad an attitude she has....it's as if she' bitter, or some entitled little you-know-what.

It's all bout "me me me me".

The whole "If you're lucky you MIGHT get to see me" sheesh, get real.

I have noticed alot of ads like this.....it looks like a LONG list of terrorist demands. There's nothing warm about it at all. Some of these ads seem like nails on a chalkboard when I read them.

Why are some or alot of personal ads about what you don't want as opposed to what you want/looking for?

I even used to have an ad like that, someone suggested to dump it, and start over.

So I focus on the postive or at least keep it nuetral with a mix of positive.

I'm sure her being stood up had nothing to do with her not meeting at a public place like normal online meetings occur....like I said, she's one of those women with an entitlement complex.

Originally Posted by cleoquel

Here's my take on it


"If you even ask, that means you're not paying attention, which is an automatic deal breaker."-- this means that this person has definite boundaries, and if you want a shot at getting to know her, one sign of respect is to acknowledge these boundaries. I dont have a specific boundary, but I will say, like the other poster said, I DO have a full time career and I will not or can not handle calls at work. Too many interruptions will make me drop someone like a dead mosquito.

"For a first meeting I have a new rule. I will not go out of my way to meet you. If I agree that you might be my type, I might let you come and see me at my karaoke show. I will not meet you anywhere else, don't even ask."--chalk this one up to internet safety, not personal *****iness (and trust me, I can use *****iness to my advantage to tantalize a young man, but I do this only after we have established a pattern of seeing each other, and I know we both get something out of it).

For what it's worth, I don't go out of my way to meet people either, but inevitably I do. Somehow, older age plus the phrase "never married, happily single" draws men like a magnet.

Keep in mind that a little caution does not mean a Not-Hot-Cougar. Go to the Karaoke night, see what happens, and make up your own mind.

--Cleo

It looks to me like this woman wants a doormat, not a man.

I feel sorry for her - she's obviously had a bad time dating and developed a bad attitude. Or she's just arrogant; either way.

Prediction? She'll eventually meet someone stupid enough to give in to her demands, find him an unattractive wuss and start over. The first guy she'll like will be the one who ignores all her **** and is himself regardless, mark my words.

Well, fellas, I have had to set tighter boundaries and parameters because of all the rubbish and misconceptions that abound with the "cougar"(ewwwww) phenom getting so much attention and press. For those of us who have been married to or involved with younger men and are "sincerely" seeking a loving, agegap connection, it has become a quagmire of disrespect, negative stereotyping and downright filth that we have had to deal with.

If you really have no intention of following through or are just looking to fulfill some fantasy, that's fine. Be honest about it and most of all, be respectful. Women of "mature" vintage will be much more receptive to honesty and a respectful approach. Reciprocity is the key. The whole "do unto others" philosophy is soooooo true.

Flyin Solo And Lovin It.....
RR

[marsha]

She's into karaoke, for me that's a MAJOR deal breaker, I hate flippin karaoke!