Shy Cub Looking For Advice

[cubdaniel21]

Hi Everyone,

My name's Daniel and I am brand new to this site. I'm assuming that similar questions to the one that I have has probably been asked before, but I sort of wanted to ask a specific question so I started my own thread. I apologize if this is redundant in any way.

Anyways, my situation is this: I am a pretty shy and nervous guy, but I really like women who are older than myself. I find many to be sweet, intelligent, and sexy in a way that girls my own age just aren't, and any time I am lucky enough to spend time with an older woman I absolutely love it.
But my real problem is approaching woman that I don't know. I have never been good at it and find it even more difficult with women older than myself because I am afraid that they won't have any interest in younger men (especially someone my age, 21). And I was just curious if anyone could please advise on how might be the best way to approach a woman in, say, a supermarket for example? I would love to chat with a woman that I am attracted to that I see in public, but, like I said, I just don't now how to approach a woman. If anyone could please advise I would really appreciate it

Thank you

- Daniel

[bayridgebabe]

Just try to be yourself & don't be so nervous. Approach her as you would someone your own age. Start off with a light conversation. Compliment her on what she's wearing, tell he she smells nice if she has perfume on. As her how to pick out veggies if u r in the produce isle. Use some imagination, I know you have it in you. Most of all be polite, sincere, and show her the respect she deserves. Good luck hope this helps you out somehow.

[houstoncougar]

ditto everything bayridge said and it really is to bad that we don't have some kind of secret handshake or wink or something so that we can identify each other!

[cubdaniel21]

Thank you very much, bayridgebabe, I really appreciate your advice. It's tough to approach someone but I know that in the long run I would regret not approaching a woman that I am attracted to and think looks nice and interesting. I have too many regrets like this already. Your advice about asking her advice about food was a great idea too - I think that the next time I am out and see a woman that I would like to talk to I will. No point being afraid. And I agree with you about sincerity as well, and I'm always sure to be polite with everyone I meet, and respectful as well.
And you're right houstoncougar, if only! haha, but for now I'll have to just try my best - even if she isn't interested I'm sure that nothing bad can come from just being nice and polite. I'm sure that anyone would be happy to get a compliment.

Thanks again

[bayridgebabe]

You are welcome cubDaniel. Too bad we don't live near one another, I'd show you my secret handshake LOL j/k. I know I would be flattered by a young guy giving me a compliment & would never ever be rude to him. Hey I'd probably invite him out for a drink or a cup of coffee if he approached me, said something nice to me & I was attracted to him, why not coffee in public place.

[cubdaniel21]

Haha, I'd love to meet and shake the secret handshake - it is a shame we don't live closer to one another, lol

And it's nice to know the way you would react if someone like myself approached you. Like I said, if the worst case scenario was that I was honest and polite and flattered a women, even if she wasn't interested that would be fine with me (it would be a little disappointing, I suppose, but that's it). It's nice to know that you, and I'm sure no one else, would ever be rude. And it's nice to know that you might even invite someone out who approached you. If you would I'm sure that others would, and that's nice to know. It makes me feel more confident.

Thanks so much

[dena_400]

You are very attractive, Daniel,and well spoken and intelligent. Now there could be some older ladies that wouldn't be receptive to you, but the majority would be I feel. It really is a compliment that you handsome younger guys out there find special qualities in us and what cub wouldn't want to be pampered some if he met a great older lady cougar?

[dena_400]

Let me ask you cubs out there if any of you would be happy with a cougar that was great in all areas in a long term Love relationship? Thank you in advance for your honesty.

[wetnwild]

Dena, you're hi-jacking Daniel's thread here. That's a great question, but please start your own thread.

[lovepower]

You seem to be a very polite and intelligent young gentleman and you also appear attractive from your photo.

I agree with the advice about giving a compliment. Who doesn't love a compliment. Plus you could ask advice or comment on the weather.

I guess the thing is that the woman in question might not realise that you are interested in her. She might just think "what a polite and adorable young man".

So I'm not sure how you get over that one...