Advice Needed On How To Approach My Neighbor

[jammerz]

Hey cougars, waddddupp?! I'm new to this site and I already need your advise; particularly the reason why I signed up. I'm a 21yrs old cub. My neighbor is a single blonde, divorced lady approaching her late 30's if I were to guess. We've talked a few times, I've helped her rake leaves/move stuff, whatever. I don't really know her, she doesn't dress provocative, and she hasn't thrown any signals for me to catch onto, buttttttt I'm willing to give it a shot and see if she would be interested in a discreet relationship ;].... How should I approach her?... I think a face-to-face approach would draw rash decisions and possibly be super awkward, so I'm considering to write a letter to her and leave it in her mailbox.

This letter would say something like, hey, this is your 21yr old neighbor, would you like to chill some time? here's my number...text if interested.......

1) Is the letter approach a good idea? If not, what would be better?
2) What should the letter say?

- Jam

[lady_emerson]

Comfort Zone.
You have helped her in the past so ask her if she needs help with anything else around the house. Raking leaves was a good start, if you see her out working on something or shoveling snow be a polite neighbor.
Do not push, do not make assumptions.
The worse thing that can happen is that you have helped someone.
The best thing, I will leave up to your imagination.

[jammerz]

It would be just as weird for me to leave a note saying do u need any help. Cause I help her like 2 timess a year.

[abergirl]

A " discreet relationship?" So you want to keep her and any relationship a secret? Why?

[jammerz]

I realize there's confusion... let me clear things up. Here's the situation without the chicken fat: we barely talk...she KNOWS OF me, she doesn't KNOW me...I would like to see if shes down to have sex. I don't want it to be tooo invasive, but I don't want to wait forever. I could care less about putting myself out there, cause i'm moving to cali in a year anyways, in case this ends up scaring her away. I guess it seems like I already made up my mind w/ the note idea, so what should I write?? should I say something like ,, hey I know you work a lot, and your in the house alone, this is your 21yr old neighbor just offering a lending hand..and give her my number. .....OR should I just get right in there and be straight up w/ my approach? PLEASEEEEEE HELP

[bayridgebabe]

Now I'm confused here. Why oh why do most of the younger men (cubs) look to us older women (Cougars) for ways to get laid (layed)? No offense intended here but it annoys me to no end. Most aren't looking for a relationship, they are looking for ways to just have sex. I just don't get it. Most of us on this site are not about just having SEX/NSA. WE are looking for a relationship. I for one am not just interested in SEX/NSA. I want more than that. If I wanted to just get laid or have SEX/NSA I can go to a bar pick up a guy go home & have sex. That's NOT what I want @ all. Young men please don't ask us older women (cougars) how to go about bagging a friend or an older woman. It's just not right, and doesn't sit well with me @ all. We are not your sounding board or sex therapists. Again, most of us are here for more than that, a relationship, not just SEX/NSA. (Just saying & this is IMHO)

P.S. Too bad if you don't like my response to you (IMHO & I'm entitled to it)

[jammerz]

If you're not going to help me out, keep your 2 cents to yourself....

[bayridgebabe]

Originally Posted by jammerz

If you're not going to help me out, keep your 2 cents to yourself....

If you don't like what I have to say then "DON'T READ IT"

I can comment on anything I want just like you can whether you agree with me or not & visa versa. That's life young man, DEAL WITH IT"

[jammerz]

k i'm done with this site.. if u really look like the person in your avatar .....welll.....GODSPEED.

[bayridgebabe]

Originally Posted by jammerz

k i'm done with this site.. if u really look like the person in your avatar .....welll.....GODSPEED.

Hun, I happen to look even better in person

No offense, but your leaving GC is no big deal, what you have to offer us is no no big deal. It would be 1 thing if you were looking for something more substantial but just wanting to know how to score, well we don't need it, IMHO & I'm sure alot of the other ladies as well. BYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE