Am I a good cub?

[RavynX]

Originally Posted by joeski

Well as a guy you spend your entire life chasing women who you're interested in. Many women expect to be chased, even if they're the ones interested in YOU. The moment you show interest, they pull back as if they want to be pursued.

Well, this whole routine can become exhausting to the point where the thought of a woman taking you over sexually, as though the chase has been reversed, is not only very attractive but also quite relieving.

Think of it as growing up in a place so insufferably hot that you begin to daydream about shoveling snow - something that could only be thought of as a terrible hassle to someone who grew up in, oh say, Colorado.

Very well put, joeski!

[tonyinkcmo]

yeah, for us guys always having to make all the first steps or chasing the girl it gets to the point where we wonder what it'd be like if we didn't have to. Its not like we don't like doing it, its just we'd like the woman to take the lead at times too. mix it up a little.

[laine175]

Personally I never chase anyone, you have to be interesting to catch my eye....if theres no effort....I won't bother....but thats just me.

[anakin1977]

I think the ego cant handle the "Id" and the "Superego"

[tonyinkcmo]

no no. that's different. if a guy doesn't show effort at all then that's his problem. I'm saying guys that show effort sometimes would like the same effort from the female.

[houstoncougar]

a little give and take, tit for tat, I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine a little bit of ying and yang. A smart lady knows when to go for it so if she doesn't there must be a very good reason why not.

[sexyman]

Look, To get a young lady or an older woman, first step is to attract her. You can use ur charm, ur funny side or ur personality. It depends from woman to woman, but without creating attraction you have nothing.
Second, showing that ur the student will not take you anyway. Maybe a woman always wants to control the relation but once she's in control u lose the attraction.
You got to be the confident guy showing that you can handle the situation. So even if ur inexperienced you shouldn't talk about that cz u will stay like this. You should go out there showing you can handle it, showing that you can make her happy, make her spend some nice moments and you'll learn by doing it. A woman will teach you a lot with time if she's attracted to you.
Be confident, don't worry and with time u will get what you need.
Cheers!

[Jet_Nebula]

Originally Posted by youngcub4you

I am a 21 year old who wants to be with an older women very badly (I came so close only to be stopped - its a LONG story but anyway....). The reason for this is that I want to be controlled and trained. I see myself as a toy and play thing for an older women. My dream it to serve an older women and learn how to please a female from her.

So am I good cub?

Are you serious?

Most women don't want a pet, they want a man. You're expected to act like a man and take care of her. This sounds like a bedroom fantasy to me and you're in luck coz there's plenty of woman out there who would be happy to make you a slave. But if you're interested in a possible relationship then you need to show some independence, maturity,and confidence. A needy guy is a major turn-off to women of all ages.

Best.

[fashion20]

To Young Cub: You're not a bad cub. At least you're being honest and there are older women out there looking for the same thing you are. Don't second guess yourself. Be true to yourself. You'll find what you're looking for.

[aprilaries]

ok young cub, imho, even tho you want cougar to train you, you still need to show some initiative and let us know you are interested. I think eventually you will find the right one for you.