Some cougars just don't want us young guys

[tony343]

An excerpt from an ad...from a very attractive 50 year old blonde:

Pretty 50 year old

OK - updated. I just had to change my preferences to block the youngsters. Not that there aren't some nice people out there in their 20s and 30s but I don't have any interest there. Sorry - not trying to be close-minded but we all have our preferences, right?

Sometimes when I approach a women in probably sometimes her 40's, I get the "aww..you're just a baby"

I wonder if that's good or bad?

[deets007]

Guess it's just the luck of the draw. Some older women want to date younger guys and some don't. Also not everyone is up for the societal challenges it brings...that may have something to do with it.

[tony343]

Originally Posted by tarni

ohhhhh Tony, once again, it is HER preference. You are NOT a baby by any means and dont take these few examples to heart. Now put your big boy pants on and start saying hi to some of us instead of worrying about us!!

Oh alright, ya talked me into it. ;-)

Not many in my area though in my search. That'll be the last of the examples.

very true.

[jurupa]

Just because you see an older woman does not mean she is a cougar. As not all older woman want or even go for younger guys.

[mskitty]

I think some women are afraid of their attractions to younger men, esp if they are mothers.

I admit, there can sometimes be a weirdness factor if I feel attracted to a guy who is close to my kid's age.

But, then I think about all the men my age who are dating young women in their 20's and I think about how nice it would be to be with someone with nice soft smooth skin and a youthful disposition.

How hot it would be to walk into a restaurant with a beautiful young guy and run into friends my own age and watch them turn green with envy?

I know, this sounds so shallow and superficial, but if men can have a midlife crisis and date sexy young things, why can't I?

It takes a strong inner strength to get to this point.

[trophywife4fun]

It's just her thing as women her age are your thing. I talk to a lot of women about this subject. Most know of my preference for younger men and ask me questions. I also ask the question, "would you". The answer is almost always, "I've thought about it"...

Of course this means yes, enless my husband found out or enless people knew. I undoubtably ask, what age they would find appealing. For the most part women are self conscious of being seen and judged by society as cradle robbers and I think having kids reinforces this as a few of the ladies here have indicated.

Most of the women in their 60's tell me a man 20 years younger would be interesting
Most of the women in their 50's tell me a man age 25-40 a would be interesting
About half the women I speak to in their 40's say a 25-35 year old would be interesting
About half the women I speak to in their mid 30's to 40's say a man in his early 20's to 30 would be interesting.

Most of the 30 something women I know draw the line at 25. When I ask why I get a mixed response. Many feel a guy under 25 is too inexperienced, the second most common reason I get from women in their 30's about men under 21-25 is they are either unreliable or have no money, transportation or live at home (I think all these things are related.

There are a small minority of women of all ages who prefer the group we haven't mentioned, lets just call them men under 21 to avoid the definition of legal in any given area. These women are natural born teachers (not to be confused with Teachers) and don't see age as a barrier to what they are looking for and hope to experience.


You don't mention your age but it sounds like the latter group is what you are looking for. I guess my advice is that maturity is sexy at every age is sexy. Say what you mean and mean what you say, be courteous and contribute. If not financially offer to help out. You'll find what you are looking for.

I guess it would depend a lot on the guy. I would be very wary with such a young man, but if he is mature enough, and it clicks - maybe. But I will always prefer a mature man (in his mind) over an immature man (regardless of biological age!). Maturity comes to me first before biological age. I like men who are mature in their mind (i.e. confident, easygoing, not afraid of life) to game players (childish mind set who believe they are the centre of the universe and are very selfish)

I feel like I'm too young to be on this website sometimes. I'm only 20, and still in college, but on the other hand, I have my life in better order than most 25 year olds I know.

I have a good full-time job, a paid off car, my own apartment, etc. but I feel that a lot of the women look at my age and are immediately dejected.

Originally Posted by int3rcom

I feel like I'm too young to be on this website sometimes. I'm only 20, and still in college, but on the other hand, I have my life in better order than most 25 year olds I know.

I have a good full-time job, a paid off car, my own apartment, etc. but I feel that a lot of the women look at my age and are immediately dejected.

Congrats! I did not have all that at 20! Keep going, and you'll find someone. A friend of mines (ironically I send him a message because his description was funny, and he had not been on gc for a while!) has just found out a g/f from this site, and he's 23. Good luck!