My Biggest Question as a Cub

[rozenlover]

Ive noticed that as far as Cougars go, there are many many factors that influence a Cubs chances of being able to attract them. One is just how young/old each person respectively is (though this is usually not a very big issue once conversation begins) The other is the maturity of the Cub/Cougar (HUUUUGE IMPACT) but another that Ive noticed recently through all my dating and casual chats is Ethnicity. So id love to know, How big of an initial impact does ethnicity have on older women when a cub decides he wants to approach a cougar? (The only reason I'm really starting to realize this is because of the fact that older Asian women avoid me like i was an Oni)

[violet]

Hi Rozen. I could be wrong, but I don't think age would have an effect on a woman's preference for ethnicity. Ok, possibly, younger women are more open to different ethnicities since the times they are a' changing...and the world is becoming a smaller place so the opportunity to meet others of different ethnicities is greater. But I really think it's more of a personal thing and not an age thing. I would hope we are all open minded enough not to rule someone out based on ethnicity!

[shortcake]

What is an Oni?

[rozenlover]

Thanks for the great answer, I was honestly confused on that, and it makes me feel a little better lol. And to you shortcake, an Oni is a japanese demon that steals the souls of bad children. its like a fairytale that they instill in their children and it haunts alot of japanese-decended people till they are fully grown

[shortcake]

I am not Japanese so the explanation helped. I think you will do just fine in finding what you are looking for, be yourself and have fun.

[rhonda2]

Hi Roz- the opera lover!

Yes I agree with Violet. Older women were raised in a generation that did not mix the races- its a cultural issue that most of us in their 5th and 6th decade would carry with us. No reflection on you of course.

Cosi fan tutte

[bigglesworth]

I dated men of different ethic backgrounds, and on the whole liked them very much, what I didn't like was the huge culture differences, that I could not deal with. I do believe younger woman are being better equipped to manage the differences. But for me, I will stay out of it for now.

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by rhonda2

Yes I agree with Violet. Older women were raised in a generation that did not mix the races- its a cultural issue that most of us in their 5th and 6th decade would carry with us.

While I agree that most of us were probably raised that way it certainly does NOT mean we are all STILL that way. I grew up in a house with an extremely prejudiced father (mostly against black people) but my high school was half black!! So it didn't make sense to me then and it doesn't make sense to me now. Having lived in places where there are a lot of mixed races (FL, southern Cal and now AZ) I am completely used to being around different races and I really don't give it a second thought. What does turn me off though, is people that are so close-minded they would never consider dating someone outside their own race. I don't mean that to be offensive to anyone here who feels differently. I just think you get a lot more out of life by being open-minded than close-minded.

[bigglesworth]

I too had a father that was extremely prejudiced and like you couldn't understand why he would say if a woman dated a black man that "no white man would want her". I know for me, when I started to date black men, I was in my late forties, early fifties. It got to be difficult dealing with their culture and mine. I think my point is that when you have grown up with an idea that it is wrong, even when you break the rules, it is hard if you have not been exposed to their cultures for a number of years.