Guys advice for women

[houstoncougar]

Do not drink seven beers while knocking two more over and then when we walk outside to leave and I say you can't drive and take away your keys and lock up your truck do not let beers fall out onto the blacktop and bust and then tell me you drank them on the way because you were nervous. Do not spring it on me that you are a smoker when you didn't mention it nor did you smoke on our first date. Do not text me over and over again and ask to see me again when I tell you that you I am not interested in a drunk or a smoker. Oh wait this thread was for the guys hahahaah sorry about that. Please do give us some tips fellas I am all for constructive criticism.

[sexy_pleasure]

Originally Posted by philos

Ok in terms of “real” approaches that didn't work with me on a first date:
Do not bring along your business CV or Myers Briggs profile and use it to explain how compatible we are.
Do not tell me to go on male birth control to lower my sperm count because you don’t want to get fat on yours.
Don’t ask how often I go to church and if I tell you I don’t, say "well we'll have to change that then"
Do not tell me you want to wear a strapon and ram me like a guy.
MOST, most of all do not text me twenty times a day as if you are some mad woman, just because we went out on a date once. If I like you, once was enough, I will be in touch I promise.

If things progress to another date
Do not tell me you love me on the third one and be careful on the 120th.

Oh no!!!
That's a bummer....
jk, LMAO

[wetnwild]

LMAO Philos!! PLEASE tell me #1, 2 and 4 really didn't happen!! OMG!! And #3, unfortunately, yes, I have heard of many women trying to change a guy like that!

[houstoncougar]

You know tantric you're pretty close on that one cuz I felt like using a strap on to beat him over the head with!

[charliex]

Originally Posted by wetnwild

Well personally I don't see that as a "woman" thing at all. And I also don't think its NECESSARILY rude (of course depending on the exact circumstances). If he just EXPECTED her to be dating only him, then it wasn't really rude of her, was it? I don't think the NUMBER of dates has anything to do with exclusivity. I say kudos to her for at least being honest about it!

you definately dont go on 5 dates with a guy and not expect something serious, sorry but it youre into seeing different guys then i dont think there would be a 5th date or even a 2nd or 3rd(meaning its about the sex). to me the idea that a woman and i are on our 5th date and she's still seeing someone else would have me ending the night as respectfully as possible!

oh and im 22 still just a little timid with older women, esp gorgeous ones. now lets face it, a lot of guys are into women who are older cause they'll take charge and let you know what they want, well thats the hype at least! my experience is not that way. now while ive been with older women, ive never had that kind of intimidation, which is what im looking for! cougars you have a reputation to keep!

another thing that is a BIG deal, dont talk about other cubs youve seen or may see even if youre just trying to use em as an example, just say you dont likit when guys..., dont talk about your neighbor who you watched grow up and is now the same age as me, i hate that one!!! and dont expect a guy to notice a new hairstyle unless its really different! trimming the hair an inch is not worth getting upset cause i didnt notice!

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by charliex

you definately dont go on 5 dates with a guy and not expect something serious, sorry but it youre into seeing different guys then i dont think there would be a 5th date or even a 2nd or 3rd(meaning its about the sex). to me the idea that a woman and i are on our 5th date and she's still seeing someone else would have me ending the night as respectfully as possible!

Charlie, I can see your point, however I guess that is one of the differences between us, with the age gap. Having been married and divorced I think maybe I don't take things so seriously as fast as maybe a younger person would. Also, I was not talking about ME personally in that comment I made. In general, I do not tend to date more than one person at a time.

As far as the "you cougars have a reputation to keep", sorry but personally I do not worry one little iota about keeping up anyone's image of what a cougar should or shouldn't be. I am just myself and the other person will either like it or not. Why bother to pretend to be something you're not?

[violet]

I think charliex is just teasing us because he *hopes* he will find one to take charge, but keeps finding just normal ladies instead

[cherryaa]

Actually If he would like someone to take charge, I'm willing to give it a try - is there an instruction book anywhere?

[philos]

Wetnwild

1 2 3 and 4 are ALL real live examples.

The CV was 30 pages long and took most of dinner to review.

I must admit 4 had me running for the hills well before the desert.

[charliex]

alright so in general, how many dates should you expect to go on before expecting some sort of committment is expected in your opinion? keep in mind that after the second or third date, after the relationship has been established its tough to ask if theyre seeing someone else without giving the impression that we think theyre um, for lack of a better term loose. women tend to have a forseen outlook on their relationships and if youre not on the same page thats seen as clueless. and thats where the problem comes in with that. unless you establish where you stand before you even date its an issue.

haha and icequeen im not teasing anyone i said in my post i wanted a woman to take charge, and wetnwild, advice for cougars, lookin to be what the cub wants, isnt this what this thread is about? in the advice for cubs thread its how to be the ideal cub isnt it? thats all this is. nothing wrong with being unique in your case! i like something a little different sometimes but when i as a cub think about cougars its not about what they should or shouldnt be its about what a cougar is and thats it. to be honest im starting to feel totally lied to by society!!!