Guys advice for women

[darkly1]

I don't think it is wise for the ladies to get drunk on the first date... but then again the guys shouldn't do that, either.

An interesting dilemma that I read on another forum: A poster had been dating this girl, they were on their 5th date and she gets a text message. Turns out it was from another guy that she had been dating at the same time (she told the poster). He was shocked that 1) she would tell him this and 2) after the 5th date she was still seeing other people. He had come to the forums, wondering if it was normal that people do that.

So another thing women probably shouldn't do: it is kind of rude to tell your date you are still seeing other people (especially during an intimate dinner).

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by darkly1

So another thing women probably shouldn't do: it is kind of rude to tell your date you are still seeing other people (especially during an intimate dinner).

Well personally I don't see that as a "woman" thing at all. And I also don't think its NECESSARILY rude (of course depending on the exact circumstances). If he just EXPECTED her to be dating only him, then it wasn't really rude of her, was it? I don't think the NUMBER of dates has anything to do with exclusivity. I say kudos to her for at least being honest about it!

[darkly1]

Originally Posted by wetnwild

Well personally I don't see that as a "woman" thing at all... I don't think the NUMBER of dates has anything to do with exclusivity.

In all honesty I find the majority of the things already mentioned in the thread to not necessarily be a "woman" thing.

I have never been much of a dater, but if I go on a date with someone then I automatically assume exclusivity for myself. One at a time as far as I'm concerned... and if I wasn't exclusive I like to think I would be clear about it way before the actual date... and taking texts during a dinner date is rude enough, but from another potential partner? Hahaha, no kudos from me even if she was honest... just no.

I JUST thought of a woman thing that annoys the hell out of me... and this is probably more in the lines of online dating: The dreaded Fish Lips.

I am talking about this:

http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=...1t:429,r:2,s:0

[wetnwild]

LOL, I agree about the fish lips, VERY annoying!

I also agree about texting, as has been mentioned already. Whether a woman or a man, to me texting (and reading texts) on a date is a BIG no-no!! If I receive a text on a date, I just quickly glance at my phone to see who it is and if it's from my daughter (she is only 17) I just explain to my date that its my daughter and to plz excuse me and they always understand. Anyone else can WAIT!

[valerie]

Why is the cell phone acknowledged or even ON during a date? I think it would be the height of insensitivity to mention that it's just some other guy you're seeing. WTF???? That seems so middle-school RUDE! There ARE exceptions, such as Gail's 17 year old daughter...but PALEEEZE....if they didn't call me for 3 months and now they're calling me while I'm trying to get to know Mr. Wonderful....they can wait til tomorrow! Date time? Cell phone OFF...at least during dinner.

[sealion]

hmmm still no other guys posting... that's too bad

[laine175]

I was thinking the same thing sealion....HELLOOO guys this is supposed to be your thread and your chance to tell US what are the no, no's for you on a date?????

[lunamor]

I think the noise of all the women speaking kind of confused things.

[frostybars]

If the date is going well.....it doesn't matter.....you could argue that it is rude, but then the date is over at that point. Just go with the flow and pretend like you have a call at the same time.....except you tell the person you're talking to "I'm on a date with an amazing woman so let me call you back later!"

[philos]

Ok in terms of “real” approaches that didn't work with me on a first date:
Do not bring along your business CV or Myers Briggs profile and use it to explain how compatible we are.
Do not tell me to go on male birth control to lower my sperm count because you don’t want to get fat on yours.
Don’t ask how often I go to church and if I tell you I don’t, say "well we'll have to change that then"
Do not tell me you want to wear a strapon and ram me like a guy.
MOST, most of all do not text me twenty times a day as if you are some mad woman, just because we went out on a date once. If I like you, once was enough, I will be in touch I promise.

If things progress to another date
Do not tell me you love me on the third one and be careful on the 120th.