Ask An Older Woman Thread (all you ever wanted to know)

[westcougar]

I love this thread!!

I think it's definitely true that when it comes to forming romantic or sexual relationships, traditionally heterosexual men have more experience with rejection than women. That's probably because they make more offers and thereby have more opportunities for being turned down. I personally have taken it badly with in person situations where my advances weren't reciprocated (asking someone to dance, for a drink) but I think it's tougher because I'm not as used to it. What women probably do (and I'm sure there are exceptions) probably think it's some inadequacy of their own; in my experience many men assume you're not single, stuck up (I hear this a lot!) or otherwise unavailable.

[houstoncougar]

ok SL they don't have the "guts" to do it but, I have also used the word balls in talking about women so, to me, it is a slang word not a sexual description like you suggest. Another thing, I was not talking about all men and I didn't say all men but, in the almost three years I have been on and off this site I have talked to A LOT OF GUYS and can pretty much read them and the cards without a lot of effort. I have no problem asking for what I want so if I am interested I will make the first move. It doesn't mean I am not concerned about rejection it just means that if opportunity knocks and I don't throw the door open and say hello with a big smile on my face I might just miss the time of my life. Now, with that said you never answered my questions and don't worry it won't hurt my feelings if you say no.

[sealion]

questions? wait what questions ...? ohhh those questions

[valerie]

Westcougar....I'm too busy to read all the comments on here, and this may be a little late in coming, but thank you for a great thread. And I agree that what you've said applies no matter the type of relationship you're seeking here. Expect more....GET more. ;-)