Ask An Older Woman Thread (all you ever wanted to know)

[lunamor]

Oh my Vita, you're becoming so sassy!

n1ck, you made me laugh - hope it was intentional

[westcougar]

Oh, dear, this has turned into a pick up joint.

Well, I was hoping that you ladies would all turn up here and I'm thrilled you have...

I have six children in the house for a sleepover (not all mine) so I shall be back on later, after they're in bed to take a few glasses of wine and rest my weary ears.

[cherryaa]

Its interesting isn't the same basic things hold true for women across a whole spectrum of relationships, intelligent guys that can make them smile and hold their interest.

It's really not all that tough!!!!

(way to go Vita)

[houstoncougar]

Yay Vita! I think I'm a bit confused over what wc means by a casual relationship though. Are you talking about dating someone over a period of time but not being monogamous or just a series of one nighters? To me even though you are casually dating someone it is still a type of relationship especially if dinner, drinks etc are involved along with sex. I guess you meant this thread for the guys to ask questions but I'm also curious hope you don't mind.

[violet]

That's an interesting question Houston. I would also like to ask the question that I've already asked to the guys in another thread about casual relationships...what happens if you really fall for the one you are casually dating?

[westcougar]

Originally Posted by houstoncougar

I think I'm a bit confused over what wc means by a casual relationship though. Are you talking about dating someone over a period of time but not being monogamous or just a series of one nighters? To me even though you are casually dating someone it is still a type of relationship especially if dinner, drinks etc are involved along with sex. I guess you meant this thread for the guys to ask questions but I'm also curious hope you don't mind.

Good question...

My idea of a casual relationship, FOR ME:

Meet occasionally (1x/mo or so or less if distance is an issue)
Occasional phone, chat, etc... (1x/week or more, depending on if a meeting is imminent)
No emotional ties...not that I don't care about the guy and getting to know him; I just don't need to know about his problems at work, if his car is broken, about his family, his childhood traumas, etc... and I won't share this info either.

It's light chat, sexual in nature, flirtatious and going no where serious. No jealousy on either side.

Also, not exclusive. Maybe 2 or 3 guys that I keep in touch with and we enjoy ourselves when we're with each other and live our own lives when we're not together.

Is that helpful?

[westcougar]

Originally Posted by violet

That's an interesting question Houston. I would also like to ask the question that I've already asked to the guys in another thread about casual relationships...what happens if you really fall for the one you are casually dating?

In my case, the answer to your question is...you don't. You just don't go there. If I sense a guy is falling for me, I'll reverse at top speed. I'm the same at the moment with men my own age, who I also date. I just don't want to be tied down. I know this phase won't last forever but it's a conscious decision to do this for a period of time.

When I'm ready for a proper relationship, all of this is going to change of course. I'm going to enjoy the stage I'm at now, while I can!!

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by westcougar

Meet occasionally (1x/mo or so or less if distance is an issue)
Occasional phone, chat, etc... (1x/week or more, depending on if a meeting is imminent)
No emotional ties...not that I don't care about the guy and getting to know him; I just don't need to know about his problems at work, if his car is broken, about his family, his childhood traumas, etc... and I won't share this info either.

It's light chat, sexual in nature, flirtatious and going no where serious. No jealousy on either side.

Also, not exclusive. Maybe 2 or 3 guys that I keep in touch with and we enjoy ourselves when we're with each other and live our own lives when we're not together.

Sounds good to me - I'd hit that!

[cherryaa]

It is interesting that many, many guys, state that they would love this type of relationship- as it really is the essence of NSA fun - except that many then baulk rather at the thought of 2 or 3 others !

Strange old world

[susanlb50]

Westcougar, everyone as you said is looking for something different, and I don't judge, what ever floats your boat, to each his own...I guess the only thing I wonder about and would possilbe worry about is sleeping with so many guys, I'm sure protection is used but I don't mean for pregnancy I mean for std or worse... Once again I'm not judging just more curious and if this is to personal to answer I understand and maybe this should be a conversation more for the womens forum..