Getting started

[youngbuck1112]

So I know how to meet women in my area, but I'm having a hard time on here trying to connect with some of these beautiful and interesting women!

Ladies what are your tips? Friend request 1st? A message? When should I try to chat if you're online? What do you suggest?

[violet]

Hey youngbuck. I'm a bit leary of friend requests or chat requests from someone who hasn't introduced themselves first in a message, or that I've gotten to know on the forums. I like messages that show that the sender actually looked at my profile and has something to say that connects to me...the very superficial messages (like the ones that just say hey babe, you're hot) I just ignore. Good luck!

[wetnwild]

I completely agree with Violet. I ignore friend requests and chat requests from guys who have never even at least said hello to me before unless they are from someone I am familiar with on the forums. Email is defiinitely the best way to start, for me anyway. And I agree that it's best to try and personalize the email a little bit. We ladies get so much of that "hey babe you're hot" stuff.

One more tip though, and we have given you this one before. You really need a better pic. We ladies like to SEE the guy that we are talking to, the same way you guys like to see us! Would you contact a lady whose face you can't even see in her pic?

[royboy]

so basically just try to be as genuine as possible, .. and what kind of pics do u ladies prefer to see on profiles ?

[bayridgebabe]

Originally Posted by royboy

so basically just try to be as genuine as possible, .. and what kind of pics do u ladies prefer to see on profiles ?

Clothed & clear face pic, some nice clothed body shots works too

[youngbuck1112]

There! I was surprised how much I was being chastised for not having a closer picture. As far as body shots...I mean, I'm 26...I'll let your imagination picture my body.

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by youngbuck1112

I mean, I'm 26...I'll let your imagination picture my body.

Well I learned the hard way to never assume anything, just because one is young. I was talking to a 22 year old from another site. Right before we were supposed to meet he told me he wanted me to know how BIG he was. He sent me some shirtless pics. BIG was an understatement. He is very tall (6'6") but he also had "man boobs" and a HUGE gut!! I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined that from a guy SO young. So just sayin' youngbuck. Doesn't mean you have to put a body pic up, but don't assume that just because you're young we know what the rest of you looks like! Thanks for the face pic though, you have a nice smile!

[valerie]

Originally Posted by youngbuck1112

There! I was surprised how much I was being chastised for not having a closer picture. As far as body shots...I mean, I'm 26...I'll let your imagination picture my body.

I have plenty of that, youngbuck but WnW isn't the only one who's had experiences with young dudes who aren't so fit! You take it for granted, in the way that any person does who cares about their body and appearance. To me, this is an intelligent choice by someone who respects the vessel that Nature gave them, so kudos to you! Now please pass me a glass of wine. Thanks!

[youngbuck1112]

Wisdom...I think I need you all to write a manual for the up and coming cubs of the world.

I guess I come from a different mindset that some of these guys that I have seen on here. For me physical attraction is what gets you in the door, but everything else (social, mental, emotional compatibility) lets you stay.

You make perfect sense...you want to know that someone takes care of themselves just as much as you do. I assume at least, I would never go for a woman that wants me to be healthy and fit while she doesn't hold herself to the same standard.

To spare your imagination Val (I don't want you thinking I'm a Fabio) I am 6'0 and 190lbs...though the BMI index says I am overweight I strongly beg to differ. I am very active (until old injuries stop me) and get kind of restless without some physical activity...that can be construed in many ways, I should erase it, but I think its funny so I won't.

[valerie]

I think you have a refreshing attitude and sense of humor...errr, youngbuck (I feel kinda silly calling you that...LOL) I personally don't WANT a "Fabio"...that would make me so nervous....a guy built like an action figure, or in this case, a dude who can't get a gig so he does the "I Can't Believe It's Not Butter" commercial. hehe 190 lb fits quite well on a 6' frame....so don't be stressing over the BMI index and other common methods of standardizing people. And yeah, I caught the part about your physical activity requirement....LOL You know, the late Cary Grant claimed that the only form of physical exercise he ever did was making love. Now that's what I call training! wheeeee!