Casual Relationship With Older Woman

[adonis_boy]

First of all, I am new here so I would like to say hello to you all!

My question is:

I met this woman who is 12 years older than me on Facebook. (I am 20.) First of all, I proved that she is not fake so you do not need to address this aspect.

We messaged back and forth and I discovered that she lives at a city I visit for a month regularly every summer. I told her this and she said "We can hang out together and discover some new places! =)". I replied to her that it is a great idea and I am looking forward to it. I also said "I hope it will be fun!". She wrote "If we both want to have some fun, then why shouldn't we?". Then I asked her if this is the first time she will be meeting someone she met online. She told me that she has chatted with a guy 4 years ago but he had a fake personality so she rejected meeting him. She then wrote "I think you are asking to yourself why I chose you. You will have to discover it yourself when you come here boy!". She also asked when I will be coming.

Well, I do not know if her message implies something more than hanging out but I have the feeling that she is after something sexual. I would like to make known that what I want is more than just hanging out, basically a casual relationship. What are your thoughts on this and what do you advise me to do next? It is odd to me seeing that a woman her age is making plans to meet up with a boy my age.

[wetnwild]

I guess I am confused about what exactly it is that YOU want. What is the difference between "hanging out" and a "casual relationship"? To me they sound like pretty much the same thing, so maybe you can explain what you really want.

[wetnwild]

OK, well you just added those last couple of lines there AFTER I posted my reply to you. You really think that the only reason an older woman is attracted to a younger guy is because they are horny??!! Oh boy. You better start reading through the forums here before you say too much more on that one. I am too tired right now to answer you coherently. So just start reading through these threads please.

Most of us older women are actually looking for relationships. Although I don't consider your woman old enough to actually be a "cougar" she is still a little bit older than you.

[cute_male]

you in there like swimwear lol

[adonis_boy]

Originally Posted by wetnwild

OK, well you just added those last couple of lines there AFTER I posted my reply to you. You really think that the only reason an older woman is attracted to a younger guy is because they are horny??!! Oh boy. You better start reading through the forums here before you say too much more on that one. I am too tired right now to answer you coherently. So just start reading through these threads please.

Most of us older women are actually looking for relationships. Although I don't consider your woman old enough to actually be a "cougar" she is still a little bit older than you.

I edited it again because I was misunderstood and want to get some sincere advice. I wrote that line because I am inexperienced in this 'older woman' thing and since I will be staying at her city for only a month and then go abroad for my MSc education and she knows that, I could see no reason in starting a LTR.

As far as I know, hanging out can be done with a friend, without sex but a casual relationship is based on sex and without strings attached. Am I correct?

[wetnwild]

OK, now you have gone back and edited your post AGAIN to remove those last few lines. So now my second post to you makes no sense. Therefore, I am not even going to comment on your post anymore. But you said that you thought the only reason an "older woman" would be attracted to a younger guy is because she must be horny.

Once people start replying to your post you should not go back and make changes to your original post, it makes everyone elses comments look stupid now. Just make another post if you want to, stop changing your original one!!

[adonis_boy]

Originally Posted by wetnwild

OK, now you have gone back and edited your post AGAIN to remove those last few lines. So now my second post to you makes no sense. Therefore, I am not even going to comment on your post anymore. But you said that you thought the only reason an "older woman" would be attracted to a younger guy is because she must be horny.

Once people start replying to your post you should not go back and make changes to your original post, it makes everyone elses comments look stupid now. Just make another post if you want to, stop changing your original one!!

In my post just above yours, I stated that I edited it again because I do not want to sound like a pervert who is after older woman to have sex! Yes, I wrote that she should be horny because I see no reasons to being attached to a boy who will be leaving in a month and who will not be even in the country in the next 2 years!

I also apologize if I offended you and I would like to get your advice as well. If you still want to.

[lunamor]

Adonis, just meet her face to face, see what the situation is and then decide if you're both on the same page.

[roboturner]

I agree with Lunamor.

While I'm curious how you met this girl (did you just search for women on Facebook and pick an older gal in a familiar city?), but that doesn't really matter. I don't think all older women are out for sex, as I've seen around on this forum, they're all quite intelligent and love doing other things (which is awesome). You should just go meet her, talk, and see where it goes from there. If it's something you don't like or are uncomfortable with, then respectfully decline. If it's something you wanted (and that she wants too), then go for it.

[adonis_boy]

Originally Posted by roboturner

I agree with Lunamor.

While I'm curious how you met this girl (did you just search for women on Facebook and pick an older gal in a familiar city?), but that doesn't really matter. I don't think all older women are out for sex, as I've seen around on this forum, they're all quite intelligent and love doing other things (which is awesome). You should just go meet her, talk, and see where it goes from there. If it's something you don't like or are uncomfortable with, then respectfully decline. If it's something you wanted (and that she wants too), then go for it.

She had a beautiful profile pic taken from the internet and I was wondering where she get it so I asked her by private message. She replied to me and sent me some more pics that I might like by e-mail. We messaged back and forth and then I added her as a friend, then seeing the real her in her other photos. Then it all came down to this point.