Having Trouble

[roboturner]

I just recently moved to the Houston area, and I'm having some trouble finding a nice cougar to spend my time with. I've tried once approaching a woman in a bookstore, and we talked and I flirted for maybe 15 minutes, and I guess she got the hint that I was interested and she said, "Oh, you're way too young for me," so that sort of bruised my morale.

I'm a really nice guy, and I only know close friends here, and I'm just trying to meet an older woman to maybe start a good relationship with.

I know I've deviated from my point, but what I'm trying to ask is... How do I approach a cougar, or how do I find out if she's interested? I'm having trouble!

[lunamor]

You need to think of a nice comeback to the "way too young for me" comments, something that will catch her off-guard and make her reconsider her prejudices!

I suggest you ask tantricblissforu, I'll bet he's got a few -- he's quite the student!

[violet]

Good for you that you gave it a shot! Of course it will be hit and miss, but you never know unless you try. It also works the other way...women might be interested but are afraid the guy might think she's too old!

[valerie]

Roboturner....I think it was outstanding that you approached someone in real life, not knowing her preferences. But here's food for thought: If it's not the AGE thing, then people will always find an excuse if they aren't attracted to you. Not that you aren't attractive...to the contrary...but we all have our preferences that have little to do with age. It's pretty much the same as approaching someone within your age group. We may be older, but our choices are a reflection of our own desires and have nothing to do with yours....same as with younger women. So that being said, ask yourself how you would politely approach a younger women and do the same in your quest for the older woman. Did I clarify or confuse? LOL

[roboturner]

Originally Posted by valerie

Roboturner....I think it was outstanding that you approached someone in real life, not knowing her preferences. But here's food for thought: If it's not the AGE thing, then people will always find an excuse if they aren't attracted to you. Not that you aren't attractive...to the contrary...but we all have our preferences that have little to do with age. It's pretty much the same as approaching someone within your age group. We may be older, but our choices are a reflection of our own desires and have nothing to do with yours....same as with younger women. So that being said, ask yourself how you would politely approach a younger women and do the same in your quest for the older woman. Did I clarify or confuse? LOL

Thanks for the compliment, I think!

No, you clarified! I was super nervous; sort of a shot in the dark when I tried, but I understand what you mean and the way you put it made me think about how I would approach any future occurrences.

[valerie]

Why did you highlight "Not that you aren't attractive"??? It should have included the following phrase..."to the contrary". Must be a guy thing....LOL You can definitely take it as a compliment darling!