what is too much on a photo.

[derajnerz]

Sometimes I read the twitter postings and even I get really disturbed how many creepy posts there is. I have a picture that is somewhat racy (no shirt, and my pants unzipped showing some of my underwear). I just want to show women who view my profile that I have a body, I don't want to come off as pervert. What I am trying to ask is does that racy photo on my profile make me look more like a pervert?

[houstoncougar]

Yes sir it does, especially if it's your main profile photo. Maybe not actually a perv but most deff someone who is only interested in sex. Believe me we do not need to see your underwear to know if you are sexy or not. I would think that would be the kind of pic you would save for someone you have talked to and would like to meet...

[joshatkins]

I believe it makes you look as such, yes.

Reason being that women over 25-30 aren't interested all that into your body and all that.

For the younger kind, I guess it's still bad, but they won't mind.

All in all - I wouldn't do it

[lynda]

Well said Houston!

[phxgirl1]

I see a photo like that from someone visiting or messaging me, undressing type, I immediately block that person. To me it means they only want sex and do not want to get to know me as a person.

Just what I do and not necessarily others. I don't speak for anyone but me.

Peace

[lorilee]

I don't block, but I delete them. As the others said it makes you look like you only want sex and that's not my main reason.

[upnorth]

I think maybe you are an exhibitionist. If that is who you are, that is why you post such a provocative pic. You should present yourself as you are. The cougars that are not liking the "definition" or media presentation of cougars will probably not go for it. Other cougars will.

You are presenting yourself as you think best. The responses will be accordingly.

[mizbehavin]

Originally Posted by upnorth

The responses will be accordingly.

THAT is undeniably true. It's the same as if a girl or woman has one of those bra or cleavage pics, or one in lingerie. It's just free advertising and will be taken as such. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, if that's what you're looking for or want to portray.

[wetnwild]

I agree with miz and upnorth. And unzipping your pants does nothing to show more of your body. However, you said that you do NOT want to come off as a pervert. So my suggestion would be just the shirtless pic (no unzipped pants) or better yet, I really personally like the open shirt look. I think it is much sexier than just shirtless!

[bayridgebabe]

Miz, I have cleavage shots ut oh maybe I should change me pics then seriously. I dont want to give these boys the wrong impression of me. I'm not looking for just sex or a roll in the hay, I want way more than that. Miz take a look @ my profile & tell me honestly what you think of my pictures,thanx. wnw & miz on another note how about the trip to NY any chance of you 2 coming to me?