why...

[loungecat]

My bad but you have to admit that is kinda funny. I guess that means I am perv right? HAHAHAHA. Hey some guys like to cuddle (I do but wont admit it because its against man law LOL). Its all about good communication.

[misterfresh]

idk just be ur self, if the lady doesnt show any interest **** em then, just move to the next one, there r billions of chances for u

[tarni]

You may not be a perv and actually be the one guy who can cuddle and not get aroused to the point of needing to complete it. Who am I to say so list the cuddle factor in your profile, by all means.

[mitch]

thanks for the replies, i really appreciate it!

and i have good and bad news, i took some of yall's advice and started talking with a co-worker of mine, she just turned 56, and i will be 20 this coming july. only problem is, i think she may have an interest in me, and i told her how i felt, but it seems like she is afraid of what other people will think. She told me shes had younger guys before and it didnt turn out well, and that i would be the youngest... i asked her to just consider a relationship, and she said she would, but im not sure if she really took me seriously.

Any ideas?

[mitch]

Yeah thats very nice of you tarni and its true, i can cuddle without feeling the need to ruin it

[loungecat]

This is just conversation and my opinions and I would like everyones take on this. In fact I will start a new thread. Please come read and leave me your thoughts.

[tarni]

Even on a first date Mitch? I can understand the ability to cuddle without ruining it once you are comfortable with your partner (meaning already after your mutual sexual experience). But the anxiety of meeting someone new, the high expectations and other factors, can you be there and kiss her, cuddle her without going all the way?

[mitch]

it wouldnt be easy i agree, especially if im very attracted to her. but it would make it so much more enjoyable when we finally do go all the way. it would be just that much more special. But yeah, it would not be easy especially how you put it tarni =p

[tarni]

Thanks Mitch - I don't know about other women but I don't have sex on the first date (atleast not willingly), that time is reserved to know each other. But I do like to know the guy well enough to hold hands and kiss on the first date or even cuddle on the first date. A guy who can show restraint and patience will be rewarded.

[adam007]

Without seeing your profile i would say nothing properly but i just want to say that u should ask yourself what u want and what is right for u......