sort of a problem..

[bathinginwindex]

So I'm attracted to older women and I enjoy having relationships with mature women over younger girls, or girls around my age. I have a few problems though, I'm 18 but I look younger..mostly in the face though. I also currently live in Maine but am planning on moving to California to pursue a career in entertainment.

What makes this the problem is not only the fact that meeting mature women is hard for a younger man in general, but it's difficult to find someone I want to be committed with looking young and also with my plans of departure...does anyone have any..uh..ideas? for me? haha. thanks in advance

Tom

[wetnwild]

Hi Tom and welcome to the madness!! Love the username....from the song by Mariah Carey?

So, just to get this straight....you're looking for someone to be in a committed relationship with but the difficulty lies in the fact that you look so young and you want to move to CA right? As far as looking too young, all I can think of is maybe a little facial hair? I say a little bc we have had this discussion on here and most women don't really like facial hair but maybe a goatee or just a little around the sides and under the chin?

As far as the moving part, I would suggest just start out dating and if it leads to something more serious you can cross that bridge when you come to it. Otherwise, just enjoy dating in the meantime before you make the big move. If nothing else you will have some fun and get some dating experience!

[bathinginwindex]

Yes! from Obsessed.

And sort of, I mean I don't want to start something good and then just like..leave..you know haha? I figured this website might be helpful because there aren't many women in my area interested in younger guys..its more traditional here, but thanks for the advice.

[lynda]

Tom, I think in most places it is traditional when it comes to OW/YM relationships. I agree with WW a little goatee can not only make you look a little older but it can be sexy too. If you did meet someone before moving she may want to move with you and if not then you have to make those decisions when the time comes. Many of us ladies would date someone 18 if he is mature and there was a connection. Much luck and rock on!!

[mslisa]

I totally agree with WW and Lynda. Facial hair is good - in fact I'm in the minority about beards around here - I think all guys should have one! Lol!!

Otherwise, I just have one thing to add. One of the nicest things about GC is that its not all about the pix. I mean, looks play a part. However, guys who are more mature can show it in the way they express themselves and treat the ladies around here. So, it's not all about the looks.

Good luck!
Lisa

[bathinginwindex]

Thank you both! I could try that, never really been much for facial hair but I could try for sure. I live in a really small town so I think I'm going to find more luck meeting people elsewhere..or for the moment online. Thanks again! I look forward to chatting with everyone!

[max_26]

You're only 18, just concentrate on enjoying life. If you find someone you have a real connection with great but at 18 you need to get to know yourself first and foremost.

[susanlb50]

I agree with max!!

[bathinginwindex]

Thanks everyone! Very helpful..but just because I'm young doesn't mean I'm just not going to date anybody, lol.

[vita]

Actually, I don't agree with Max

You can get 18 year olds who've had some appalling life experiences and are very mature and others who've been sheltered. The same is true for 48 year olds who've remained in their own comfort zones for a long time and never strayed while others have been out on numerous adventures. Having lived more years, by itself, alone, is not an indicator of self-awareness (or a lack of it)

bathiningwindex seems like he's asking some key questions for him and that's what you do, of any age, if you're exploring life as you go.