I need some assistance here...

[phoenix27]

Hello everyone,

I signed up for this website for a specific reason. I recently met a beautiful 29 year old woman. Mind you... I'm 18 (that's where there's some trouble.)

We hit it off amazingly well, she even let me sleep in her bed with her and we've made out quite a bit. Now the issue here is, she has everything I want in a woman and according to what she's told me I have everything she's been looking for in a man.

I really want to go further with this and have a relationship with her but she is worried about the social stigma attached to dating someone my age. It's the only thing really holding her back. I'm trying my best to work around it, and she hasn't backed down on the affection toward me.

What can I do that can really make this work between us and sway her opinion? I can't lose such a beautiful gem.

[gypsyred]

It is becoming more socially acceptable for older women (and she is not older in that context...she is just older than you) to date younger men.

If you are mature for your age, feet solidly on the ground, and know what you want in life, where you are going and how you're going to get there, then you are a catch, no matter what your age. This is what should matter to her...not what people think.

There's my two cents worth-hope it helps your argument.

[phoenix27]

Originally Posted by gypsyred

It is becoming more socially acceptable for older women (and she is not older in that context...she is just older than you) to date younger men.

If you are mature for your age, feet solidly on the ground, and know what you want in life, where you are going and how you're going to get there, then you are a catch, no matter what your age. This is what should matter to her...not what people think.

There's my two cents worth-hope it helps your argument.

I have been expressing this to her in a least intrusive way possible, but it's new to her I believe and she's worried about her families thoughts etc...

I understand what I need to do and how, but not how to sway her opinion toward my direction.

Thank you regardless.

[houstoncougar]

I personally don't understand all the hoopla it's not as if you're planning marriage anytime soon and were you planning on meeting her family right away? She's trying to justify not being with you (especially since no one is going to know how old either of you are unless you tell them) while playing with the idea of being with you and messing with your head. I actually think it's a little silly since to me your age difference is not that big of a gap if you are mature and don't look like a baby.

[susanlb50]

I agree with Houston, that isn't even a big age gap, but if she feels like this now, then I think you are going to have problems..she needs to feel comfortable about the relationship or it will never work..

[wetnwild]

Ditto what houston and susan said. Shouldn't even be a big deal right now, esp with such a small age gap. It's not like she's in her 40's or something. Maybe she is too focused on what everyone else thinks.

[lynda]

You have been given great advice from some of the best ladies. My last boyfriend there was 30yrs difference and we did not give a rat's a... what the world thought. If I met a mature nice 18yr old and we love each others company then I would date him. It is difficult to get passed the family but if they are approached in the right way and they see that you are good for each other most will accept what makes their child happy and besides she is 29yrs old and should be making decisions for herself. Why would you tell the families ages anyway unless you look like Charlie Brown. You have to understand not everybody accepts older woman/younger man relationships but that is society's problem not yours. Continue to reassure her and just be caring and you will win her over.

[lunamor]

How long have you been seeing each other? What kind of a community do you both live in (small, large, metropolitan, rural, etc)? Just curious - might explain her ultra-conventional thinking.

[feedback]

hm I feel for ya man. I have that nearly happening. I'd say if you really like her then definitely try to make it work.

[phoenix27]

Originally Posted by lunamor

How long have you been seeing each other? What kind of a community do you both live in (small, large, metropolitan, rural, etc)? Just curious - might explain her ultra-conventional thinking.

We've only been seeing each other for about a week. I know it's very limited, but when we hit it off the first night.. we really hit it off.

She's from Indiana and moved over here, I live in a rural part of New York State.