I need some assistance here...

[susanlb50]

I agree WW...thats how I feel, its just what we are attracted to and want...I don't care what anyone thinks and when I'm out with a younger guy, nobody ever stares or acts funny and I don't feel the least bit embarrassed. I'm actually happy to be out with someone that likes me and has no problem being seen with me...plus after awhile you don't even think about the age difference.

[houstoncougar]

with both sides... I have always been in age gap relationships but only recently (last 6 years or so) has the age gap been an issue for me. When the gap is as much as 36 years I will argue with myself over whether or not it is the right choice for him, not for me, because I know for me it will always be a younger guy. As far as being natural, yes, for me it is and always will be. As far as falling in love for me it happens all the time not just with romantic love but with people in general, with children I work with and with friends. I am a highly emotional person and feel that people come into my life for far deeper reasons than anyone can ever fathom. I love this poem and bet that most of you know the exact feelings that it expresses.

For a Reason, A Season or A Lifetime
When you know which one it is,
you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then,
without any wrongdoing on your part
or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered
and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real.
But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order
to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person
and put what you have learned to use
in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.

[mizbehavin]

I understand and agree with all of your points, but the thing in my case was, I wasn't looking for anyone. So when I started to fall it was a bit confusing. That's why I joined this site; to know that I wasn't alone All along I was searching for information that what I was feeling was ok and that there were other people in the same boat as I.

P.S. I love that all you guys and gals are in my boat

[vickeee]

You are both young. Enjoy your lives!

[scottish27]

look my last partner of 5 years she was 21 years older than me and people will say things and familes wont except it but if u both like and care for each other then get on with and think of ur selfs not what other people think .