I need some assistance here...

[gypsyred]

I know what its like to fall hard and fast for someone...I do it frequently. But it has only been a week. You gotta give her time to get to know you and you really do need time to get to know her...hopefully, she will give herself and you that time.

[phoenix27]

Originally Posted by gypsyred

I know what its like to fall hard and fast for someone...I do it frequently. But it has only been a week. You gotta give her time to get to know you and you really do need time to get to know her...hopefully, she will give herself and you that time.

I guess that's what it has to come down to.

I don't want her to feel as though I'm pushing this on her, so I'll need to figure out someway to get my emotions across and not sound like a crazy person, haha.

Thanks for the help, anything else you all find, please let me know!

[mizbehavin]

Since I'm sortof going through the same thing, I will put in my two cents. It is natural for an older woman to put anything and everything in the way of dating a younger guy. Been there, done that. It's just the way we are, and although the social stigma may be changing, it is really not changing very quickly, and it is generally still seen as wrong. So what?

Love doesn't understand numbers If you and her need some advice, help, talk from experienced couples, go to Agelesslove.com . That is where I found every single answer and every single reason that I needed to be able to get an older woman/younger man relationship to work, and know that it's ok and done quite often. There is a wealth of information on that site, all you have to do is read if you don't want to join. I strongly suggest that you send your lady to that site too. You will easily spend a couple days reading all the information on that site, so please give it a try, both of you, and the best of everything to you both! I promise, it's worth it.

Oh, and don't forget to keep us posted

[lunamor]

That's really great advice, miz!

[phoenix27]

Hello everyone!

So her and I had a nice (sort of) talk about it via texting, and she basically said at this point in time she's not very into the idea. I respect her opinion very much and I think all I need to do to remedy this situation is give it some time. She still wants me to be in her life and to be a good friend and still wants to make-out with me, haha. (According to her I'm the best kisser she's had in awhile, so I'm very flattered by that)

I believe as time goes on with us I'll get the answers I'm looking for. I appreciate all of the help you've given me and will continue to post you all on how things are going, and definitely if I need some more help with the situation. If you feel as if she's giving me any kind of signals, please let me know.

I definitely don't act my age, I never have, but it's hard to forget that she is more life-experienced than I. So any help in any way would be amazing. Especially on ways to pique her interest in conversation.

Thank you all!

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by mizbehavin

It is natural for an older woman to put anything and everything in the way of dating a younger guy. Been there, done that. It's just the way we are, and although the social stigma may be changing, it is really not changing very quickly, and it is generally still seen as wrong.

I want to see if I understand correctly what you are saying here miz. Are you saying that we older women look for ways to NOT date a younger guy????? That we try to push them away because it is not "socially acceptable"????

[robthenurse]

uh oh cat fight-a-brewin *hides somewhere with a view*

[wetnwild]

No cat fights rob, I just want to get clarification to see if I understood what she meant. We are allowed to disagree with each other here and we sometimes do. But we don't have cat fights. We respect each other's differences of opinions on here.

[mizbehavin]

Not dating so much, but definitely falling in love. We bring up parents and kids, the social thing, friends...you should see some of the **** that I put BigDog through, and it wasn't really on purpose! Just part of the head arguing with the heart.

[wetnwild]

OK, so I did understand you correctly then. You're basically saying its "natural" for us older woman to push younger guys away. That it's "natural" for us to try to find a reason to not let ourselves fall for a younger guy correct?

I have to completely disagree with you!! I, for one, completely EMBRACE the idea of falling for a younger guy! That is what I am actively looking for, and it is the reason I am on this site! I personally do not care what my parents or my friends think about it, I certainly could care less what society thinks, and as for my daughter....well she just needs to get used to it. She doesn't like the idea but that is HER problem, not mine. If your friends have a problem with it, well, they weren't really your friends to start with. And as for parents, I have never worried about what mine think. I guess I've always been a bit of a rebel that way. And society? They can kiss my a$$!! It's MY life and no one elses. I am actively looking for a relationship with a younger guy so it's not fair to say that its natural for us older women to push them away because we are not ALL pushing them away! I am trying to pull them (well ONE) towards me! It's just a part of who I am, being attracted to younger guys, so it never even entered my mind to push them away!!

When I imagine myself being in an actual relationship with someone I KNOW it's going be with a much younger guy because that is the only choice my heart can make!! That is what is NATURAL for me.