how do women feel about single dads

[ariannanation]

Being a single dad new to the dating scene I was wondering if women have a problem with "sharing" a single dad with his kids

[gypsyred]

no...at least not women in their 30s...maybe some older ones because they've already raised kids of their own.

[mizbehavin]

Well, I'm soon to be a single mom. My boys still at home are 17, 14 and 10. I think alot depends on the woman, and like gypsy said, if they're done raising their kids already. I can see why some wouldn't want to do it again, but in some..they just can't lose the "mom thing". It's been a part of them for so long that it's just a natural thing to do.

So out of curiosity, do you have a problem sharing a woman with her kids?

[lynda]

Me being a little older than most here sssssssshhhh; my children are grown and I have a 13yr old grandson means I am very much into family. If a man has children that is his love and responsibility. If he was not taking care of his children I would have no respect for him. I personally would encourage him to be a good father but the only downside to this is the mother to the children get pretty ticked off when they know he is with a cougar and we all know people can use the children as a reason to give threats. Now I am not saying all are like that but many are. Miz, if a cub does not except your darling children then you do not need him. Family is the most important thing in the world. My daughter is so accepting of who I talk to or want to be with; she is very much like me gosh that could be dangerous in a few years. hahaha

[mizbehavin]

Originally Posted by lynda

Miz, if a cub does not except your darling children

Wow, you sure don't know my kids!

And Lynda, I think your beliefs and generally who you are is a great model for your daughter!

[susanlb50]

My kids are 25 and 19 and I work as an asst teacher for 9 and 10 year olds, I love kids, and I wouldn't mind dating someone with kids as long as we had our alone time too..

[olderisbetter44]

This is a tough situation for me. I generally don't want to look for a relationship with a single dad because there is too much difficulty in raising step-children. I have been there/done that...got the shirt.

However, I do find myself attracted to young men with children and I have, I think, pushed one away because he had kids, which may not be fair on my end.

I will give 2 examples from my own life. I was at the mall and there was a very HOT guy with a little boy and I was so increadibly attracted to him and he kept looking in our direction. I was with my own 23 year old who is very beautiful and my 5 year old and, having some issues with self-esteem, I couldn't imagine that he would have been looking at me but thought he was probably looking at my 23 year old daughter. I couldn't stop looking at him though and I made a comment to my daughter, who knows my cougar tendencies and doesn't really approve of them. She was not really attracted to him and I still wonder if he could have been looking at me and wish I would have had the guts to go talk to him.

The other situation was New Year's Eve. I took my 5 year old to an indoor water park in my area and I saw a very nice and attractive young man with 3 children. The baby was a doll and she actually facilitated a conversation between me and her dad. She put her hands out to me and wanted me to hold her. She was so adorable and I do think he was interested in me but I backed off because I couldn't think about getting involved with someone with young children, especially three of them. I still wonder if I made a bad choice there too. He was so nice and polite and handsome.

[mizbehavin]

So why couldn't you have just maybe been friends with the guys with kids? I mean, nothing has to come of it really. Just someone to talk to when you go to the park, have lunch with, go to McDonald's play thing...just a friend

[cristinaevelin]

I think that could be used as a strength. Frame it as something positive:

You are stable, responsible, caring, nurturing, a good father, dependable, etc.

ALL of these are very attractive to women.

[breanaabagail]

I live with a single dad. If the dad in question isn't how do I put this. ok, so all consumed with his kids. Then they are okay. Moms and dads need to know that it's okay to love your kids but when they are all you can love you don't leave room for the others you bring into the picture. Also when they act as if your child can do nothing right and their's can do nothing wrong it causes problems