Do's and Don'ts for Online Virgins (Female), Part II

[lunamor]

I opened this thread for anyone (male or female) to contribute Suggestions for Survival to female online dating newbies: what would you suggest to a sister, or a good female friend?

If you're a woman and you don't want to put it out in public, check out Part I in the Women Only Forum - it's for stuff women don't want to put out in public *nyah nyah!*

[lynda]

Luna, thank you for posting this cause it is something that I wish I could have read before jumping into the online dating pool.

I believe one of the main things I have had to learn is never be surprised at what you see or what is said. If you do not want sexual talk say so and if you are sharing photos make it very clear that you do not want to see any nudes. Now that being said there is always the ones who will try anything just to get a reaction and all of a sudden they ask a dirty question or a nude pops up(no pun intended). Do not feel that any of this is your fault and you are not alone in this happening. My reaction is "you just got youself not able to talk to me". They are going to come back saying how sorry they are and they thought you wanted to see that photo. blah blah blah NEVER allow anyone to be rude or disrespect you. There is so many people online looking for some cyber anything and it is up to you to set the boundries. I have found some really good people online male and female but those are few and far between. Men and women can be just as bad as the other so it is up to you where you put yourself in this crazy worldwide web of dating.

Just MHO...

[lunamor]

Good advice!

Yes Lynda, I think many female newcomers just don't realize what's in store for them, so that was the point of this thread: not to discourage or scare anyone away, but to help a woman feel a little more prepared when the inevitable occurs!

I would suggest to any woman who is getting to know guys through online dating sites to *place absolutely NO importance* on what a guy tells you, if it is in direct contradiction to his actions! If he tells you you're important but doesn't maintain regular contact, if he says he'll do something and then doesn't, etc., make your decisions based on what he DOES/DOES NOT do!

[gypsyred]

Experience has taught me well...to protect yourself from being scammed don't make any decision about the guy until you actually see the guy, either on live Skype or in person. If he claims to be from the US, has a business and says he makes over $100K a year, and he has a foreign accent, that is a strong indication he's hoping to scam you. Don't give anyone personal information or financial information, and for gods sake, don't be suckered into giving them money. For all you know, you are actually talking to some chick in Nigeria.

[gypsyred]

I'm with Luna on what she said too...Actions speak louder than words.

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by gypsyred

Actions speak louder than words.

Yeah - if a woman doesn't let her ears get plugged up with lustwax

[lynda]

Luna so true.....and just go with your gut feeling.

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by lunamor

let her ears get plugged up with lustwax

I hope it was clear that I meant by her *OWN* lustwax!

[gypsyred]

LOL...I love it....lust wax.....

Are you speaking from experience Luna?

Seriously, I read something recently that made a lot of sense: people make mistakes when they make decisions with their hopes, dreams and desires, and they don't listen to their head and heart. I suppose if one has lustwax in their ears, that tends to get in the way of listening properly as well. LOL

[houstoncougar]

I love the lustwax since I have a bad habit of falling in lust with certain types of guys and then I also get crunches on them which is not quite a crush...