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lunamor · #31 (**permalink**) 11-24-2009, 08:42 AM

"I just can't believe that a whole different "game plan" is needed for a more mature women than what you would say or do with a younger woman."
Not a small number of guys who think that they're attracted to older women have, in fact, little or no experience with women of any age. They often (mistakenly) view the older woman as "easier" (read: more accepting/more direct/sexually desperate/any combination of same): yeah sure, we don't like stupid posturing games (a 20-year old stranger calling me "baby" makes me cringe in embarrassment - for him!), but as we get to know a guy, we still like a bit of courtship (the social equivalent of foreplay - and what woman doesn't like THAT?).

princebybirth · #32 (**permalink**) 11-25-2009, 05:43 PM

First... Wildblue I love that icebreaker lol. Second, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, third Mike Damone.

I disagree, it isn't that you NEED a different game plan when courting a cougar, it's that you can be more lax. You don't have to play as many mind games as you do with younger women. Too often I've found when you show interest initially boom your chance with her went up in smoke. If you walk upto a cougar and drop her a compliment she'll appreciate it and you can most likely move onto conversation and a number exchange etc. With a younger girl you walk up and drop her a compliment she appreciates it but looks at you as nothing more than one of her tons of groupies. I've dated some beautiful girls not by being the stereotypical gentleman (which I was raised to believe was the right thing), but by ignoring them and treating them like they were nothing more than a groupie.
Maybe it's just because of the type I often go for, much like women like the bad boy but don't want to end up with him. I go for the party girls, or the girls who stand out from the crowd, but I want to end up with someone who will be loyal and a good mother when the time comes. Eh I rambled on too long I'm done.

8ball · #33 (**permalink**) 11-27-2009, 08:03 AM

You shouldn't have to play mind games with anyone, homie. haha I just chill and let them come to me if they're interested. Like, if they like my boots or jacket or hair or whatever, then I'll talk to them and maybe keep them interested.

lunamor · #34 (**permalink**) 11-27-2009, 08:20 AM

See, we're all different. For me, guys who "act cool" like 8ball described ("I just chill and let them come to me if they're interested. Like, if they like my boots or jacket or hair or whatever, then I'll talk to them and maybe keep them interested") just leave me cold, because I don't go for macho acts. I want to see a bit of interest first, otherwise I'm closed. And if a shy guy can manage to approach me without a lot of Rambo posturing I'm actually impressed: I know that it costs him some effort to "risk", and I like that he's willing to risk a bit, it's the kind of character that attracts me. Also, for me, one of the charms of a younger man is a kind of puppy-like quality: sweet, and maybe a little shy at first. And - like puppies - once they know you better, they're lively, adoring and playful

Lunamor, dog-lover

houstoncougar · #35 (**permalink**) 11-27-2009, 04:31 PM

I love puppies and men like that too!

princebybirth · #36 (**permalink**) 11-28-2009, 02:56 PM

See but that's the thing 8ball... that in itself is a mind game. Personally I'm not the type to sit around and wait for things to come to me, I'd rather take life by the horns and steer it where I want to go. So I'd much rather see someone I'd want to meet and go meet them.

For example, we're out for a friends birthday in NY last yr. We're all drinking having a good time and we notice two attractive ladies across the bar. I look at my two friends looking over at them, laugh and walk over to the ladies. As soon as I walked over they asked me, "you're the only one with enough balls to come over here?" I laughed and told them just because they were beautiful doesn't mean they should be scary... I knew I had a little too much to drink and there was no way the interaction would go anywhere serious because of that but I wanted to put myself out there anyway. They both laughed and we enjoyed a little conversation, danced a bit, then I went back to my friends... point of the story most women want you to come to them.