Girl trouble. Please help.?

Okay, so here's the problem. There is this WONDERFUL young woman that i work with. She unloads all her problems(relationship or otherwise) on me. We are out with a group of friends. One of these friends happens to be a guy that is interested in her. He seems like a very nice guy but....She's been hurt several times in the past by guys. However, she trusts me. I tell her to trust this guy, but i really want her to dump his sorry carcas. How do i handle this situation? I told this guy that i wouldn't try anything with her while he still had a chance, but i wanna tell her how i feel.....

[energeticmale]

I wouldn't tell her to just trust him, but I'd say go out on a few dates and see how things go. Also I'd wonder about his background with women and if he has a good job and pays his bills and can treat her to things or if he's just looking for hook ups. If he's irresponsible and just wants to get with her or doesn't have a future I'd tell her how I feel.

Originally Posted by adam007

Okay, so here's the problem. There is this WONDERFUL young woman that i work with. She unloads all her problems(relationship or otherwise) on me. We are out with a group of friends. One of these friends happens to be a guy that is interested in her. He seems like a very nice guy but....She's been hurt several times in the past by guys. However, she trusts me. I tell her to trust this guy, but i really want her to dump his sorry carcas. How do i handle this situation? I told this guy that i wouldn't try anything with her while he still had a chance, but i wanna tell her how i feel.....

You have to ease yourself into this one. You can't hit on her with full force or you'll breach your word to her friend. He may have her question whether she can trust you since you breached a voluntary commitment you made to him. Besides, you would have then made a new enemy who is also her friend. That's a treacherous ground to walk on.

There are exceptions, but people who unload all their problems are generally bad news. I personally don't tolderate any boys who do nothing but tell me all their woes in life. Who we become is dependent on the people we spend the most time with. If I were to date a whiner, then it's doubtful that I'll accomplish anything significant.

Everyone's been hurt several times. It's part of life. I make it a point to check that baggage at the door. Going into a new relationship with all the hurt you've suffered in the past guarantees a bad game.

[cleoquel]

why are you playing two-sies? You say

I tell her to trust this guy, but i really want her to dump his sorry carcas. How do i handle this situation? I told this guy that i wouldn't try anything with her while he still had a chance, but i wanna tell her how i feel.....


Does he in fact have a chance, and does he deserve it? Even if he does deserve "a chance" given the fact that she may distrust him, why should that keep you from showing your cards. Don't you deserve a chance too?

[firefly3x]

Know what you yourself feel towards her...then decide.

[misterfresh]

Originally Posted by adam007

Okay, so here's the problem. There is this WONDERFUL young woman that i work with. She unloads all her problems(relationship or otherwise) on me. We are out with a group of friends. One of these friends happens to be a guy that is interested in her. He seems like a very nice guy but....She's been hurt several times in the past by guys. However, she trusts me. I tell her to trust this guy, but i really want her to dump his sorry carcas. How do i handle this situation? I told this guy that i wouldn't try anything with her while he still had a chance, but i wanna tell her how i feel.....

too late i think she see u as "purse holder" u know the gay friend, u gotta either start actin more indifferent of her or just come out and tell her how u feel one nite when u guys r alone

Ask ur self and what u find right just do that.