A mind is a terrible thing to waste...

[lunamor]

Ares, we do - but it's written in the non-verbal language of intuition, and many guys don't know how to read that

[ares9]

Well I've learned it I think. I had to sacrifice my twenties, and I'm still not perfect but hey can't blame a guy for trying :P

[tantricblissforu]

One of the reasons why we have so much trouble describing these types of things is that words are the tools we use to describe them. The right “answers” aren’t words...They Are All Feelings! You want to be with women to get a feeling. And a woman would want to be with you for a feeling. Feelings came long before words. Feelings evolved over massive periods of time.

Most of us guys (and I’m typical in this area) are still re-playing roles and games that were imprinted on us when we were KIDS. And now that we’re adults, and now that we have “rational minds” - that can think and argue - we assume that we are way past that stuff. I read somewhere (prestigious research) that a caveman would have a MUCH higher chance of approaching and attracting a modern day woman, because he relies on less of the 'thinking/logic' part of his brain and more on the 'instinct/survival' part.

The way you hold yourself, make gestures, breathe, use eye contact… and the patterns of combinations of these things… tell a woman EVERYTHING about you. In the first few seconds, a woman makes a lot of judgments. Everything from how much money you make, to how well you take care of yourself, to how good of a father you’d make, to how good you are in bed. And dozens of other judgments. And women are usually right on when they make their guesses! (men do this too - different judgments tho)

Women are born/raised with at least three languages: Native (i.e. English,etc.), Woman, and Body. Men are born/raised with only one. Since guys are incapable of learning Woman, we must learn Body to attempt to communicate with them. And women understand body language somewhere around 10-50x better than men, so it is crucial for us to learn. Body language is THE natural language of attraction.

[piper]

@ arealthing, to be humble is to be intellegent, and humble my lady you are not.

[andy1338]

men are good at reading body language but we get told not to judge a book by its cover and such.

[8ball]

Yeah, we're all *******s.



Also, guys over like 22 are worthless.

[aceflip]

oh noes I am on the brink of being worthless

=(

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by 8ball

Yeah, we're all *******s.



Also, guys over like 22 are worthless.

Um, where on earth did you get THAT idea from 8ball?

aceflip, ROTFLMAO!!!! Don't worry sweetie you still have a few good years ahead of you!

[lunamor]

eheheheh AceFlip, it was 18-year old 8ball who wrote "guys over like 22 are worthless" - I'd cut him some slack, but I wouldn't take it as gospel either!

Lunamor

[dancetoday]

arealthing, I can understand where you are coming from. Online dating in general can be very frustrating and you have to wade through a lot of people to find someone you are really compatible with. But I think that stating all of that in a profile comes across as really negative and is not going to increase your odds of finding the right person. Sure, you may screen out some but you may also screen out some good ones that just feel that you are ready to find fault with them so they won't even try. I have seen lots of men's profiles (not on this site) that say something similar about what they don't want in a woman and it is a real turnoff.