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arealthing · #11 (**permalink**) 08-10-2009, 06:14 AM

@Sharps: Your original response to my post seemed to indicate that I should ONLY expect to get sex here because no one under 35 here is looking for anything else. If that's the case, there are other MUCH easier ways. (Reread what you posted in case you think I misinterpreted or maybe you left a word out??)

And regarding the wording of your second post, you are reading a lot into my post and response to you that just really isn't there but your resentment comes off pretty clear.

Here's the reality: I'm 49 and I do what I want. So I'm allowed to have whatever expectations I want for a partner and whatever little rules I want that make MY life easier. I'm allowed to express my opinion just as you are. Just because you don't care for mine doesn't make it any less valid, nor do I have to accept your judgment of my opinion.

arealthing · #12 (**permalink**) 08-10-2009, 06:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ares9

What do you mean you don't believe in true love?? How about false love? Sounds like you may be pretty familiar with that right? It's not like used a whimsical term like "love at first sight" or "soulmates"

Anyway hmm... good manners over "true love" (actually "love" - shhh!) sounds awful boring to me...

I don't necessarily believe in love as an emotion but more of a choice. In my lifetime, no one I've ever cared for has given me any indication that my happiness is more important to them than their own. And I was married for 25 years.

So I don't think anyone should be taken aback by the fact that I'm finally caring about my own happiness, safety and emotional comfort over that of others. I'm used to being treated like a lady and I guess I just don't feel I should have to settle for less. The man who's willing to go that little extra mile is usually amply rewarded for his investment of effort...

ares9 · #13 (**permalink**) 08-10-2009, 01:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by arealthing

I don't necessarily believe in love as an emotion but more of a choice. In my lifetime, no one I've ever cared for has given me any indication that my happiness is more important to them than their own. And I was married for 25 years.

So I don't think anyone should be taken aback by the fact that I'm finally caring about my own happiness, safety and emotional comfort over that of others. I'm used to being treated like a lady and I guess I just don't feel I should have to settle for less. The man who's willing to go that little extra mile is usually amply rewarded for his investment of effort...

Well then maybe a cub will surprise you.

arealthing · #14 (**permalink**) 08-11-2009, 05:32 AM

@ares9: I would like nothing better. I'm finally accepting the fact that if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, every day is still a gift. Now is really all we have, as much as we like to make our plans...

On top of that, I just got a job so I can wrap myself up in work for a while. I need it and I'm really excited to be working again. I've been out of work for more than 6 months! But between that and my other social obligations I won't be around here much. I'm not too impressed with the site so far anyway but the forums are okay.

houstoncougar · #15 (**permalink**) 08-12-2009, 04:06 AM

don't think that any of the guys who commented on this forum has any idea of what arealthing meant by want it was she wanted... frankly, I think it far to complex to try and explain to anyone on a forum and it's pretty much over the heads of most men and an awfully lot of women...

ares9 · #16 (**permalink**) 08-12-2009, 01:42 PM

Only one thing to say to that...

http://www.makinglemonade.com/men%20and%20women.jpg

jc60616 · #17 (**permalink**) 08-12-2009, 08:14 PM

Arealthing I totally agree. 97% of the YM who contact me that is the distorted perception we are "cougars" just looking for sex with any random guy that catches our eye. I had exchanged e-mails with a YM/25 who obviously looking for a roll in the hay. I made it clear as I do with all of them "if sex is what you seek" keep looking, you wont find that here.