curiosity

[oldsoulyoungbody]

is being the type of person i am present a problem when dating women who are older than i am. i was under the idea that when dating, nothing serious, seeing more than one person was acceptable. at least for men this seems to be a problem. i have noticed that its acceptable for women to have more than

now im up front about the fact that i tend to, but not always, date more than one person at a time. this seems to lead to much in the way of being told im a player. i have had situations where i have dated 4 women, made it known that i was seeing others, and in fact invited them all to dinner. things were talked about and everyone was agreed that this was ok. at the time i was dating a wide range of women. 21-50 actually. though things didnt workout with any of these women, i still find myself on good terms with all of them and still have dinner with two of them from time to time.

though things didnt work out, and we're still on good terms, im still curious as to why most women have a problem with this.

[burak]

i really don't think the answer to this question is rocket science. just think about it buddy.

[blueize]

It is perfectly acceptable to date several people at once. Dating means engaging in prearranged social events.

Being in a relationship is different. Being in a relationship implies monogamy.

So as long as you are honest about the fact that you are 'dating' then there isn't a problem. If someone has a problem, just explain that you take relationships seriously and wouldn't presume that you or she are in one unless it's been discussed.

[oldsoulyoungbody]

thank you both very much for your points of view. thats what i was curious about. i meet many who are of the opinion that dating and a relationship are the same thing. i find this to be quite an issue. i do wish i could find more women who can separate the two. though i am still open to more opinions on this issue.

[sudojudo]

Originally Posted by oldsoulyoungbody

thank you both very much for your points of view. thats what i was curious about. i meet many who are of the opinion that dating and a relationship are the same thing. i find this to be quite an issue. i do wish i could find more women who can separate the two. though i am still open to more opinions on this issue.

Are you "dating" women, that is going to public places and enjoying yourselves? Then do you return home and take them to bed, hold them, have intercourse, share feelings and sleep side by side...and do you do this with multiple women? If yes, then you are a player.

Try saying to the next one of your dates, "I will be taking my passionate, sincere, sweet-talkin'-so-into-you self and sharing it with a few other ladies, are you okay with that?" If she says yes, then there should be no misunderstanding.

[houstoncougar]

think the real question here is what is your definition of dating? Like Sudo said if you are going out with these women in pubic and then dropping them off at home then you are just dating. But, if you are intimate with all of them then you are a player. If they all know about each other than I think they have a problem but that is because I value myself, believe in serial monogamy and feel that I am worth it. I also think the fact that you invited a bunch of women who you were "dating" to dinner all together to discuss your dating smacks of egotism and self importance. Maybe you should move to one of those countries where you can own a harem or hey, you could just move to Utah and be a polygamist.

p.s. I think the reason that so many women confuse dating with a relationship may be because they have not communicated with the man exactly what they are doing... because most women who are going out with a guy on dates and having them over and then are having sex with them tend to think that they have entered a relationship without ever clarifying it with the man.

[jozee_aloha]

How would you feel if someone you were dating asked you to join her for dinner with all the other men she is dating?

[bluesybil]

Originally Posted by oldsoulyoungbody

in fact invited them all to dinner...

wow...I'm extremely surprised that nobody lost an eye at the very least.. ::g::

Be that as it may, I think that Clarification is of the utmost importance. Gotta make sure everyone is on the same page or it's wrong, cowardly and deceptive to the person/persons involved and is apt get real ugly real fast.

Awful lot of that wanting to have one's cake and to eat it too going around... a stupid saying because of course if you have cake you're going to want to eat it..but you know what I mean

[twigs1984]

Originally Posted by oldsoulyoungbody

is being the type of person i am present a problem when dating women who are older than i am. i was under the idea that when dating, nothing serious, seeing more than one person was acceptable. at least for men this seems to be a problem. i have noticed that its acceptable for women to have more than

now im up front about the fact that i tend to, but not always, date more than one person at a time. this seems to lead to much in the way of being told im a player. i have had situations where i have dated 4 women, made it known that i was seeing others, and in fact invited them all to dinner. things were talked about and everyone was agreed that this was ok. at the time i was dating a wide range of women. 21-50 actually. though things didnt workout with any of these women, i still find myself on good terms with all of them and still have dinner with two of them from time to time.

though things didnt work out, and we're still on good terms, im still curious as to why most women have a problem with this.

man

4 woman at once?

You must be extremely broke.

[desertfish]

Either that or he has a credit card with a ridiculous credit limit...