Not Interested

[jurupa]

Wouldn't a mature older women let the younger guy know if she is interested in him or not after chatting with him, it being on phone, online, or meeting up in person? I am just asking because the last 5 older women that I have contacted and have chatted with, by the mention ways, have simply stop talking to me. I get that you don't want to hurt my feelings. But at the same time you leave me there wondering if you are actually interested or not for a couple of days and when its been a week I just figure your not interested. And even tho I am not exactly hurt by this, it is annoying for me at least to go thru and its a bit of a drag on my emotions.

I get it that not every single older woman I contact is going to be interested in me. But I would at least want to be told your not interested. A simple "Thank you for showing interest in me, but I am sorry but I am not interested in you" would do. Maybe I am asking for to much here. But this certainly is getting to me.

[buni]

I sometimes get super busy and sometimes I also lose track of who I have responded to.
I don't mean to ignore anyone though.
I am guessing the same happens to others too.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by tarni

Were they long-distant chatting or were they where you could meet them?

If long distance, we know nothing is going to come of it so then it just becomes a waste of time. If you lived close and never met, then it also became a waste of time.

All of them where within meeting distance. I don't do long distance unless its a penpal type of thing.

Originally Posted by buni

I sometimes get super busy and sometimes I also lose track of who I have responded to.
I don't mean to ignore anyone though.
I am guessing the same happens to others too.

I understand that people get busy and that I see that on the girl side she can loose track of who she has been in touch with and what have you. Tho I do pop in to say hi if I hadn't heard from the girl yet. For example this one older woman that I talk to on the phone once before Christmas said she was busy running around and didn't have much time to talk or meet. I can understand that. So I wait after Christmas to give her a another call. No response. So I send her a message via Plenty of Fish. It gets mark as read and I get no reply back at all. I thought I did the reasonable thing. Maybe I am asking for demanding to much?

[buni]

She most likely isn't interested in you and isn't bothering to tell you that. A lot of women like to be chased even if they aren't interested. Yeah, I know it is wrong, but not much can be done about it.
I say if she doesn't answer you back just go on to the next one.