dating website for ow/ym?

[houstoncougar]

See energenic and paul and the rest of you guys you talk about all these other sites: agematch, cougared, dateacougar, etc and you talk about how they are not dating sites etc. but I have been on those sites too and so have lots of the same guys on here and guess what... they (the guys) are full of $hit. They are not looking for real women to date they just float around trying to get their kicks online by whatever means necessary. I have spoken to guys who have contacted me and they don't want to meet (one of the main reasons why we get so many emails from guys that are not only states away but continents too) they just want to play the online dating game and ladies I know you know what I am talking about. Chatting, exchanging pics, flirting, texting, lamenting about meeting you and then poof they are gone like stars in the morning. Or, all they really want is naughty pics, cyber sex or phone sex. Funny that one of you should say that AFF didn't have real women on there when that is the one site where I actually met, dated and had a real live relationship with a wonderful guy. I suggest that each and every one of you young men take a step back, think about wtf it is you are really trying to get out of this site or any other and after that reality check let us know or better yet delete your profile. I especially love when I call out the guys I know who have this type of reputation and they then disappear off of here or block me etc. If I know for sure a guy is a little weasel you can damn well bet I am going to let a sister cougar know. We have seen and heard it all on here and those other sites and yes I think this is the best one for talking to actual real (I think) people but it still is not a real life meet and greet dating type of site.

[buni]

yeah what Houston said!

[blueize]

I was on line on some other site once and exchanged an email or two with some guy who lived near Lake Michigan. He sent me a link to a bikini catalogue and I figured, okay, so maybe he markets for them, right?

The next email I get, this total mo... is asking what my bikini looks like. Talk about a wanko in a closet. I know that lake is frozen half the time, but somebody reaaallllly needs to get out of the house.

So I think you're right. Some of these guys aren't looking to meet someone. For them, virtual possibility has replaced imminent reality.

[asouthernbelle]

I couldn't have said it better!

[alecto]

That is EXACTLY why I will not deal with chatting or IMing with men who are not in my area. I am not here to be fodder for w a n k e r s.

[whatifiwaswhite]

good advice girls

[robbrown]

To my mind forums are the best way to get to know people if you're looking for a long term relationship. That's because you get to know their personality through their posts over a period of time. Chatrooms are OK if you want casual sex as the question/answer process is very short and therefore gives an almost immediate reward. Its the same with MSN, etc.

I've not been on here long but already I am getting an idea of who are the most outgoing, sensitive, shy, etc members - I don't think that would be true had I been frequenting a chatroom!

Just my opinion

[tacit]

Originally Posted by houstoncougar

I have been on those sites too and so have lots of the same guys on here and guess what... they (the guys) are full of $hit. They are not looking for real women to date they just float around trying to get their kicks online by whatever means necessary.

Usually I find that the most self-interested people are the ones who drift away the fastest.

You can often tell the difference between decent people and not, by whether or not they're prepared to sit and listen to you, and talk with you: not simply about sex, or pics, or webcamming.... I'm talking about ambitions in life, and desires, thoughts, and views on things. You know, actually taking an interest in the person. I find all people interesting in some way, but honestly, it's the ones who like to share aspects of their lives, and listen to others, that are the most valuable and decent people to get to know.

My two cents [and it's in Australian currency, so depreciated further *s*]

[sudojudo]

Tacit,
First, thanks for posting your picture, I love the composure. For me, the photo is the first step in starting to believe that a guy is legitimate. I am on one other site as well, and that other site has produced more prospects in my town. There are more men signed up on that site because that site has more cougars looking for NSA sex dates. I am getting what I need from both, this one has smart, thoughtful, interesting men and women and the other has the numbers. I wouldn't start any kind of romance with someone who doesn't live in my town; what's the point? This is my first adventure into cyber-dateland. I am a bit stunned on how many men are confused, detached and clueless on how to get next to ANY woman, and yet they want...something.

[niall]

Sites like gocougar, AgeMatch and others are definitely worthwhile because you know in advance that everyone there is open to dating someone significantly older or younger than you. Of course my experience has been that people can have differing cut off age limits as to when someone is either "too old" or "too young". Some people are more broad or more narrow than others in terms of whats and acceptable age gap for them.

But if you stick to these sites you may be really limiting your options. One site I would recommend is plentyoffish.com. One of the features of POF is that it allows you to set up a profile and limit the people who can contact you in terms of your own specific preferences in terms of the type of relationship you're looking for (or for that matter, NOT looking for), whether the person is a smoker or not, and...the age range of people you're interested in. So if you're only interested in say, hearing from guys under 40, you can set your mail settings to only receive messages from guys under 40. You can also block married people from contacting you, guys only interested in sex...you get the idea.

One thing I've noticed while browsing women's profiles there is that many of them either have no age preference setting or have them set so as to allow younger guys to contact them...more than you might expect for a non-age specific dating site! I chalk this up to word getting out about how great OW/YM relationships can be and more and more women (and men) are willing to explore that option. And I think it's great that more people are willing to step outside their box and broaden their horizons.