Where Can One Find Sweet Men

[asouthernbelle]

JackFrost, I totally agree with your way of thinking. For every action, there is a reaction...the choices made may be mindless, unconscious, simplistic or whatever, but they each render a result.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by jackfrost

Glad to hear you were never in the accident.

But, the way I believe is that no matter what, there is always a choice. Even though it may seem as if you did not choose the events. If one looks back at every single step that led up to the event, you will see there were choices made. That is, if would have done one thing differently, you may have not ended up at the event you end up analyzing.

But, one event that should have clicked in my head was my own car accident I got in about 2 years ago. Granted, I was in the right. The guy dozed off, swirved in to my lane and almost hit me head on. Thanks to quick reaction/thinking, I only had the front part of the car messed up (insraunce totaled it), bunch of glass cuts on my arm, and lower back/neck pains for about a year. Still have some strain, but it will get better over time.

Now, I could easily say I didn't choose to get hit. I was in the right. I was driving in my lane. But when I thought back and analyzed the situation (I'm overly analytical at times), I found my "choice." I stopped to get gas. I wanted to get me a couple Hubig pies (small fried pies). The delivery man had just got there and the clerk said I could wait, that the man would only be five minutes. So, I waited the five or eight minutes. Had I simply got my gas and paid for it, I would have never even come in near contact with that man or his vehicle. At the time the guy swerved, there was no one behind me so the only injury would have been that man's own when he would have probably hit the fence on the side of the road. Of which, mainly injury to his vehicle as he was not injured in the wreck.

At first, I did think the same thing as many. "I didn't choose to get hit."

I agree for every choice you make, seeing that it is an action, there is a counter action to it. But I still think there are things beyond our control or choice for that matter that we have no say in. I am not saying we live our lives by determinism, but more free will with a hint of determinism in there. As we both pointed out religion or belief, for that matter, does play into this choice thing. Yes the events that led up to your accident (and lucky you lived from it), was your choice and the counter actions responded to it as such. But to me you had no choice in the other car heading for you. What ever actions you took to avoid the car where certainly your choice, but you had no say or choice on the other car coming at you. Yes you can say that due to an earlier choice you made this was an unforeseen counter action to it. But this basically brings me back to determinism and free will. Because some could say because of your earlier actions your "fate" determined that you where going to get into an accident.

[jackfrost]

I don't believe in fate. To believe in fate is to deny free will. If fate were true, then it wouldn't matter what chocies we make as "fate" would state no matter what you do you cannot change it. Therefore, if you cannot change or affect something, then there is no free will or "choice."

An example of "fate" was in the updated version of The Time Machine. The man continued to go back in time to save his wife from getting run over by the horse and carriage. Finally after multiple attempts to save her, she would get killed soon by some other way. Finally, he noticed that no matter what, she was destined to die around that time.

[lioninthecity]

It's called "the greed factor" and men do it too, perhaps more. My biggest problem is that I just am not attracted to anyone my age, only younger, good looking people. While I myself might not be that hot, I THINK I'm hot and will dress up in clothing designed for people half my age and then make excuses that I am just liberated.

It's called "growing up." Sure you can find nice guys your own age. But if you're looking for guys 10 years younger and many of whom might actually want to have a family when they hit their 30s. You have to wonder whether the problem is what you want and its availability in conjunction with your own ability to offer someone of that age what they seek.

[spicy44107]

It is tough. 90% of the profiles on this site are either fake, non genuinely looking (want wank fodder), or married.

So then you have to sift through all the other bs. I was done having children at an early age.. and now have a son going to college. I just wish there were sites like this on the net when I was 28! Then again, when I was 28, I was dating a 50 year old woman who I met at a bookstore.. *gasp* in REAL life... Go figure LOL

[tarni]

A sweet man is all relative, a guy I don't get along with may very well suit another woman and visa versa. Other dating sites has their fair share of the faker, scammers and ******s. You are not going to get around that one.

I may get reamed for taking the old fashioned approached to weeding out the sweet from the sour but you can only know for sure by actually dating - you know... the face-to-face thing. So if a guy wants to keep "air" between you, he is not that into you or has something to hide.

[moopy]

well...
i mean, isn't that the point?
if possible, to meet in person?
it'd seem kind of silly to me if a dood wanted to keep it long distance...
i'm trying to get some luvin...pixels only work for so much :/

[louklik]

hello dear!i'm a young man .but i'm not from island .i hope we can chat and know ourself more.bouasimo@yahoo.fr

[louklik]

bouasimo@yahoo.fr

[sbrdbnt]

Originally Posted by greg22

sweet guys do exist, but they never get any women, doesnt matter how much women say they like sweet guys, doesnt make it true

I agree. Typically women are attracted to the 'bad boy' type, the ones that are exciting, but oh so wrong for them, and the 'sweet guy' is typically invisible.

I endeavor to mix a little bit of 'sweet' with 'bad', although I've had mixed results