Please Decode

[fashion20]

All of you guys on here are so cool. Anyway, I posted a question before about this younger guy I like and received funny and serious answers. So thanks. I'm still hung up on the same guy and I need some decoding.

I work with this guy at work who is 35, I'm 47(A young 47). Eight months ago I was new to this job and he came right up to me and introduced himself. He's quite hot! I never paid any attention to him when I started working there cause I thought he was the egomaniac type. To my surprise, he was so humble and nice. He found excuses to come talk to me, complimented me all the time, gave me double takes when he saw me, etc. He asked me if I had facebook so we could share pics but I wanted to give him my email instead. In an email, he complimented me again and said maybe we can share pics over a glass of wine or some beer. I wrote back, "Sounds good" with a smiley face. We talked at work once for 30 min. and he told me it's been so long since he's had a date, that he doesn't have the confidence anymore to go up to women, which I find hard to believe considering how hot he is. I've dropped more hints to him that I like him.

It's been 5 mo. since he mentioned drinks and he hasn't asked me out. I def won't ask him out! In the past 5 mo he still compliments me on my clothes, notices when I get my hair done, etc. He even has my cell # cause he wanted to send me an mms text, a recording of something. Everytime I email him, he responds right away. We have a month off until summer school and our last day was yesterday. Didn't even see him and he never said bye. No email, text, nothing. Last week he asked me if I will be doing anything fun during our vacation. I said I wasn't sure, hoping he would ask me to do something but he didn't.

I'm so confused. I'm thinking he's just not that into me but I don't get that vibe. But, who knows. Can any guy decode this for me so that I can get a clearer understanding of this? Thank you.

[_CougarHunting_]

Well I'd say pretty much he's interested in you and does like you. Now whether if he want's to date your or not is something your gonna have to work out with him. Tho to me it sound's like he's been hinting at it for quite some time. Perhap's you should ask him over for a drink or something. Maybe go out to a club and go dancing associate with this younger man maybe he'll open up a bit more to what your enquiring.

Let's put it this way if I, wanted your e-mail and was pretty quick to reply to your text's i'd say i'm pretty interested. As for not texting you or no email after not going into dating stage perhaps he may feel your not that interested or too shy. It's kinda like this for me if I, text you one day and you don't text me the next day. I, may feel your not as interested in starting something.

I, think you should call him and I, know how woman are against asking a guy out but perhaps you could suggest doing something with him.

After all your really interested in this younger man and you are the cougar . Pounce !.

[houstoncougar]

How can you spend that much time playing head games with yourself? I'd have had a nervous breakdown by now. Girl just ask him out yourself he sounds interested but if not you'll find out pretty damn quick and you can either jump on it if he says yes or get on down the road if he says no. Eight months whewwwwwwwwwwwwww...

[fashion20]

Thank you both for your advice. You guys are great!

[_CougarHunting_]

yw Fashion20 hope it work's out for you

[fashion20]

Well, I took your advice, wrote him an email and he responded right away complimenting me again. This time I mentioned hanging out sometime but got no response. Hmmm. Maybe he really did just like the chase.

[_CougarHunting_]

Well if you sent it today he's probly thinking it over.

Patience young one.

[aliasangel]

I'm leaning towards the other side of the fence on this one. I tend to think he's an emotionally unavailable man who's feeding off your energy. He enjoys the attention/flirtation but has no real intention of taking it further. You're his work flirt. He probably has several different "flirts" (and maybe more than "just flirts")scattered throughout different areas of his life. He's blowing hot and cold....stringing you along. Back off, slow down, refocus and decide what you want for yourself in your own life. Remain open to other possibilities. If things continue to develop proceed with caution.... red flags all over the place here.

[fashion20]

Definitely a possibility.

[_CougarHunting_]

Ok if he compliments again and shows no initative then back away. Let him keep sending txt's but don't respond. If this is all he does find yourself another fish or cub. Keep your work relationship normal be friendly just don't go the extra mile for him then make him beg and do all the work. Personally get another man if this continue's cause he's wasting your time and does not seem like he'll want to approach you. That or he's possibly already taken by some one else. Either way not worth your effort. If he had the common courtesy he'd respond yes or no to your question.