Please Decode

[fashion20]

Well you guys, here's what happened with that immature guy I told you about. I finally saw his true colors and they're ugly. He came back from vacation, never called like he said he would, and then when he saw me at school he said, "Sorry I didn't call, I was busy." I just thought that was so disrespectful when I've been nothing but nice to him. So I gave him the cold shoulder and every time he said hi, I just gave a quick, "Hey." Finally, it was eating up at me and I emailed him and told him how I thought he behaved disrespectful...

So, he calls me re: email and apologized and said he called during the vacation and left a message. Clearly he was lying which really turned me off. He forgot that he already told me he was busy during vacation. I wish I called him on that but I just said that I never got his message. The conversation went on for 30 min about school and other things. We laughed, etc. When I hung up I was so mad and disappointed in him. He said at the end of the convo, "Call me anytime. I love talking to you." I lost so much respect for him. I don't even want to see him at work.

I'm moving on and whatever the reason is why he never followed through with the date doesn't matter anymore. No need to comment that he has a girlfriend, he's a player, etc. cause it's over and I don't care anymore. I deserve someone who respects and cares about me. He truly doesn't deserve a nice girl. Well, that's it. I hope I meet someone in my city soon.

[fashion20]

Here's an update on that guy at work. Unreal. I finally went out for a drink with him after 10 months of flirting. We talked for 3 hours and he kept talking about how he loves women with fake breasts, that he just wants to bang them, not interested in dating them. He said he has a crush on me, secretary at work, girl at the gym, etc. I told him that he has a crush on everybody and he agreed. He kept carrying on about fake boobs and so I started telling him about guys. I know that at my age I shouldn't play that game but I was so disturbed that I just threw out the firearms left and right.

I thought to myself, this guy knows I like him yet he's doing everything in his power to turn me off and well, mission accomplished. It's not that I still want him it's the fact that I was disrespected, like I was one of the guys. So I emailed him the next day and told him how I felt, that I had a crush on him all year and now I lost respect for him. Maybe that part was a little harsh but I was so hurt and disappointed that he wasn't making me feel important. All this time with flirty texts, compliments, constantly checking me out, telling my students how beautiful he thinks I am, emailing me, texting, calling, etc. and then nothing.

So he responded back saying he had no idea that I had a crush on him, that he thought I was extremely nice and thought he was just going out with a nice friend having a nice, open convo. He said what I said was unfair and that maybe he shouldn't have mentioned womens' breasts, etc. but that I mentioned meeting younger men online. haha He said his idea of a crush is finding a woman or man attractive and that he would never act on it and that it didn't mean he wants an intimate relationship with them. He mentioned when we were out that he was too immature to have a relationship that he feels like he'll change if he does. Hello, he's 35. Grow up. Anyway, he basically said he wouldn't judge me and that he lives his life trying to be nice and accommodating to people. He said he enjoyed our night out even if I didn't. Then I felt like a drama queen after that. On the flip side, it sounded like he tried to turn it around so that I would look bad. Idk I'm extremely hurt and a bit surprised and I will get over this but it'll take a little time.

Just needed to get this off my chest. Wouldn't mind a guy's opinion on this. Thanks for reading.