Is this a dating site or not?

[houstoncougar]

I had posted this in a blog on the other side but, I decided to post it in the forums toosince I think there are some young men who read these and not the blogs.

I don't know about the rest of you but, I have an extremely busy schedule a full time job, a contract job, pilates classes, online PhD classes and a home to take care of. I don't have a lot of spare time to email, chat, or im and the way I figure it if someone is attracted to me then lets have a few exchanges and meet up for a drink or something to see if there is any real life mutual attraction.

I state that clearly in my profile and also that the man needs to live close by so, could someone please tell me why I get emails from men all over the world wanting to chat and dying to meet? lol I know some are scammers but, some are for real.

Then, I have the guys who live less than a half hour away who email, then email some more, say they want to meet, email some more, make a date, reschedule it, email some more, and then, guess what? I have lost interest. Yes sir guys, my time is very precious to me and even though yours is stretched out in front of you just like your gaming system, your tv, and the rest of your life which at the moment seems to only hold the responsibility of a few classes and a part time job, my time is not.

So, when you screw around continuously putting off meeting etc. or disappear then text me a year later and want to know if I remember you or you tell me that you can't stop thinking about me or, that you have new pics and do I want to see them, all I can think of is how much of my TIME YOU WASTED. I prefer to have real life memories not cyber ones and I sure would love to find a sweet young man who wants to experience REAL life.

[champlakers]

I think the wrong guys are around you... I have met a woman I chatted with not from this site but we are having a great time together... if you were in LA I would've loved to get to know you...

[houstoncougar]

Thanks Champs and I would have said yes! About the wrong guys being around me I don't think it's just me from the comments on the blogs I'm thinking a lot of ladies get the same b.s.

[champlakers]

That's true.. I don't think its you at all its the guys... some of them you don't know what their situation is they could be cheating or whatever... some are actually scared or have issues... you just have to keep going with it and try and have a business trip to LA so I can show you a true gentleman... I really do hope for the sake of your happiness that you find someone that really does want to meet but at the same time knows how to act... you will find that person might take a while but you will... just stick with it sweet heart...

[Adam122]

I just joined today and have not met anyone yet. But I know I want something real and exciting and I don't want to waste anyone time becasue I don't have much of it myself. I hope I can be the guy that makes a woman happy and makes me happy as well.

[wetnwild]

Originally Posted by houstoncougar

I state that clearly in my profile and also that the man needs to live close by so, could someone please tell me why I get emails from men all over the world wanting to chat and dying to meet? lol I know some are scammers but, some are for real.

That's an easy one Houston. It's because 99% of them don't bother to read the profile!!

As far as everything else you said, I have to agree 200%! I don't have the time (or the desire for that matter) to chat with guys from all over the world that I know I will never meet. What is the point? Honestly, it really irritates me that I get a mailbox full every day from guys who can't even speak decent English, wanting to "start a relationship" with me. For real dude? How is that gonna happen when you're in Ethiopia or wherever and I'm in AZ?!

I think the big difference is that most of us women are looking for real life interactions, whereas too many of the guys on here are looking to "chat", aka cam sex. That becomes more and more apparent every day, with all the guys coming on here admitting they aren't looking for anything more than "chat". I don't get it, but that's just me. I guess they need something to do in between all the video gaming. Maybe I'm getting a little jaded, but I think the whole cyber sensation, internet dating thing, unfortunately, has created an entire generation of brain-dead people that spend way too much time playing video games, surfing porn sites, wanting to have nothing but "cyber relationships" and cam sex and wanting to exchange nude pics. And we all know we women have had our share of the local guys that come on so strong and then go MIA the day you're supposed to meet. Like champ said, they could be cheating on their gf or wife. Or it could be they never had any intention of meeting up in real life because half of them wouldn't be able to interact with a female in real life since all they know is cyber women! Which would also explain why we have an entire generation of young men in their 20's that are still virgins. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being a virgin in your 20's. I just think we have a higher incidence of it now, than ever before, because too many guys get lost in their imaginary cyber worlds and never get out into the real world to meet real women!

Yeah, like you Houston,, I don't have time for "fantasy" or "La-La land". If you have no intention of meeting in person don't waste my freakin time. I am a real person, also, with a very busy and demanding life. No time for games here.

So to answer your question, "is this a dating site or not?", I guess the answer depends on who you're asking. For some of us, yes. For too many others out there, it is just another avenue to meet people for whatever cyber thing they are into.

[champlakers]

I don't understand how that's appealing though... the touch of a woman, to hold her hand, see her smile, to walk her to the door at night and kiss. Those are all very beautiful moments you can't have online no matter how hot the girl in the porn or cam or whatever is... if that really is the case that these men would rather have that then that's just sad... I would love to chat with women on a web cam if we were getting to know each other before we meet.. or if I met one of you beautiful ladies online and I wanted to be a genuine friend ok.. but to just date women through a web cam is extremely not understandable to me... I do hope your wrong but you have been at this longer than i so I don't know what to say... I would ask all of you out on dates if I had a private jet lol...

[bayridgebabe]

Houston & WNW I couldn't have said it any better. What I don't get is why oh why do some of these guys think all we want is NSA? I know it's the media, portraying us as hunters & making them (the guys) think all we want is sex, SO NOT TRUE. If they would JUST read our profiles, maybe they would understand some of us,what we want & don't want, what we are looking for & NOT looking for, one can wish & hope can't one. As for GC being a dating site I highly doubt that it is anymore./ It's more like hi I'm a virgin & looking to lose it or Hi I'm looking for NSA nothing serious, better yet they want a sugar momma. Hey for me, I'm not looking to get married, but I'd love to find a younger man for a relationship. Unfortunately doubt that I'm going to find a guy on here. I stay here for my sister's, @ least we have each other.

[champlakers]

Well there are some of us out there I can promise you... who I can mouth vouch for... I hope all of you find someone that will make you happy and treat you right in every area...

[lynda]

First, Champs if you had a jet and picked each of us up for a date that would be the ultimate date wouldn't it be? Now we would either drive you to jump out of the plane screaming or it would be interesting depending on how much alcohol was flowing. hahaha

I can not add much to what Houston and WW has said because you girls covered it so well. Guys, I hope you read this and learn what many of us think and look for. We all are not looking for busting your cherry and cam2cam. I think you may miss out on making some great friends by being disrespectful. Most of the ladies here lead a very active life and just do not have time to play the games.