Tips

[masterwilko]

Hello ladies,

how are we all today?

I am new here. Just joined to see what this is all about and too see what you all get up too

As the title suggests, can anyone provide any tips on how to approach an older lady?

As sad as it is, I am pretty shy so find it's quite hard for me to walk up to some random woman and start chatting.

Not only this, where I am from, it is hard trying to find an older woman who are interested in younger guys.

Thanks for looking and I look forward to reading your replys

[Pocahontas]

Oh I like the shy ones.

I think you will find it a lot easier to approach an older woman than a younger one. Most are more easy-going.

[bigglesworth]

Gosh...we have been over this so many times before. Approach an older woman just like you would anyone you are interested in just because we have more years than you doesn't mean we that much different, how about just approaching an older woman and saying "Hello"?

[lynda]

Ditto Biggles...
Just be yourself.....if you can approach a girl your age why think that you would not be able to talk with one that is older?

[AlanM08]

Originally Posted by lynda

Ditto Biggles...
Just be yourself.....if you can approach a girl your age why think that you would not be able to talk with one that is older?

Coming from someone new here, with little experience on these forums, I'll answer that question: The stigma.

We are raised and cultured to gravitate towards partners of similar age. It is simply foreign to most young men to approach an older woman as an equal or partner. Since this process is foreign, we may feel uneasy.

It works both ways though. Honestly, while i was at work today, i met more ladies that i would have loved to chat with.

The problem is the cultural paradigm that we continue to uphold: that when a younger man speaks to an older lady (significant age difference) or vice versa, it is not meant to be taken in the context of a relationship or sexuality.

[lynda]

Alan, you make good sense from the younger man's view but you also have to remember that most of us ladies have dated younger men and many of us have had relationships. Not all ow or ym want that so it comes down to being able to recognize if someone is flirting or just being nice. I think most are nervous to approach anyone that is a stranger. It is always important to be yourself because most older women can see through the BS.

[laine175]

Personally I think approaching anyone at any age can be pretty daunting....maybe a smile first to show you're friendly, then a hello and then just be yourself....eye contact is important it shows interest, a little confidence is good but not arrogance, funny does it for me....if you can make me smile you're haf way there!! hope this helps...where are you from anyway?

[masterwilko]

To be honest, I have never been confident approaching women.
Sometimes I wish I have the arrogance that some guys posses but then again, and correct me if I am wrong, most women don't like arrogance?

Laine, I am in Dorset although I do go to Kent for work