Need some advice

[chilledice]

Hey all, need some advice here, first off my best friend is female, from sweden and she has recently moved to australia, now it was difficult for her to get on the internet for a few months because she was working on a farm so she couldnt contact me ( fair enough) but now she is back in the city she is on facebook every few days, talking with all her other mates but COMPLETELY ignoring me! i asked for her new number a few times so i could call her but no reply at all, yet she posts on her other friends wall that she misses them etc what should i do? should i ask her whats up?

[chilledice]

I also want to add that she recently got into a relationship with an itlian guy about 4 months ago! maybe he doesnt like me and her being friends!

[jasonm519]

How long were you guys best friends?

[chilledice]

5 years, so it seems a bit strange that she isnt talking to me

[jasonm519]

See if I can't get all my questions out of the way in one post as opposed to 6 D:

Q2: Have either of you ever tried to take the relationship to a more romantic level? If so, how long ago, months, years?
Q3: Did you by any chance, maybe accidently ignore her on whatever chat program you're using? I've had this happen to me before with friends.
Q4: Is this someone you valued greatly as a friend?
Q5: Where do babies come from?

If you answer these, I can give you a better idea of what to do without me having to sound like a complete jackass. Otherwise, I can proceed as best I can with the little I know.



















Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are the views of the writer and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of the writer.

[chilledice]

Ive never tried to take it to ' that' level before no, we have always just been really close friends, giving eachother advice about dating etc so it was nothing romantic, never has been.

Hmm i dont THINK ive accidently ignored her before no

I value her like family to me, very special person in my life

Babies come from two people making lurrrve, not sure why you asked that Jason lol

I appreciate any advice you can give

[violet]

I would also ask: are any of her other facebook friends male?

[chilledice]

Yep they are

[jasonm519]

Hard to say, could be anything. Maybe she thought of you as a possible relationship and then when she found someone else she moved on. You could be correct in that her new man or w/e doesn't like her talking to you because of your long history. Girls are sometimes just wierd, maybe she just decided not to talk to you for whatever reason. Who knows really.

You value her greatly yet she seems unresponsive to your messages. You can only send so many messages before it seems wierd or desperate. The best thing I can think to do is, say your good byes (temporary or not). Something like:

Dear Friend,

I have tried numerous times to get in contact with you but thus far you seem disinterested. I do not know what has happened that drove such a wedge between us, but I apologize if I was to blame. Though I have enjoyed your friendship greatly these passed few years, I most bid you farewell and wish all the best in your life. I hope you understand why. You will be missed greatly and should you desire to get in touch with me feel free to do so.

Your Friend,
Name!

This is something you should only do if you're certain she has not been too busy to respond, which if what you say about her actively talking on facebook, I would say she is not. If she tries to play the busy card, you can point out the obvious flaw in that statement.

This is kind of a gamble, but in my book it's the best thing to do in situations like this. Sometimes the other person just needs space/time and they'll come around. Spamming someone with message after message with no response will mostly likely do more damage than good in a situation such as this.

You might lose your bestfriend, but if she really is your bestfriend, she'll come around.



Take my advice or don't, do with it as you will. I hope everything works out in the end and I'm sorry if she is simply gone forever for whatever reason.

[chilledice]

Thank you very much Jason i really appreciate that mate, im goona think long and hard before i decide on what to do, but i will certainly take what you said into account!

Cheers bruv!