am I in the Limbo of cougardom?

[lagr01]

Hello everyone,

I have a question for the ladies here, although anyone's opinion is welcome...

I'm a 36 year old guy and I've always been attracted to older women. However I've been dating women near my age (just a couple of years older) lately.

So I decided I should start dating women in the age range I'm most attracted to again and figured that a website for cougars would be a good place to get to meet nice women. But then I noticed that most guys who are considered cubs are usually in their early 20s.

Am I too old to be 'cub' material?

Because if that's the case I'm pretty much screwed since I'm also too young for mature women who aren't cougars.

That would kinda suck, wouldn't it?

[jace]

You know I was thinking about that the other day to... So how old is too old?

[violet]

I think there is too much emphasis placed on the definition of "cub" or "cougar". Men of any age can be attracted to older women, regardless of what you call it. 36 sounds like a fine age to me, for whatever that's worth.

[olderisbetter44]

36 is a wonderful age!

[lynda]

Not sure about all the rules if there is any. I personally think for a woman to be a cougar she should be 40+ and the age can go up so long as the lady wants a younger man. Now this is where the guys ages come in. Some of the ladies do want a certain age group like only in their 20s but that does not mean all the ladies are that way. I am 61 and I like men starting in their 20s up to 15yrs younger than me. I have talked to guys that have their age preferences too so it is all left up to the individual. You guys don't worry about your ages because there will be ladies that will just adore you.

[lunamor]

I hate the tags and labels, too - but if a guy's past his 20s but under 40, I guess he could be considered a "young lion" - HA!

[wetnwild]

We've talked about this many times on here before and everyone has their own preference. My personal preference is guys in their 20's so it just depends on the woman I guess.

[cherryaa]

Not sure I care as long as he is witty, amusing and good company

[kauffman]

i can almost taste the irony in this thread

[phxgirl1]

You're fine lagr01. Don't worry about it. Most of those early 20 yo's you see really aren't as serious about dating an older woman as you may think. Most are just flirting a little (or a lot) to see where it will get them.

You've lived a little and obviously have a better handle on what you'd like out of life and I say go for it and don't worry about the stupid labels!