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03-07-2010, 07:08 PM
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 CUBS - Who should pay for the date? So, guys, it's the first date and you are the one that asked the woman out. Do you expect to pay for the date or do you expect her to pay half? I'm a little old-fashioned when it comes to that and I prefer the guy to pay. Not because I am too cheap. Because it makes me feel more like a lady. The same way that having the door opened for me makes me feel. But I HAVE paid for half before, when I know the guy doesn't have much money and I have no problem doing that. The guys I date are all either college students or not very established in their jobs yet so I do understand the financial concerns. The reason I bring this up is because I recently found out that a cub I went out with called me "cheap" because he had to pay for our dinner. He asked me out and he told me to pick the place. I said do you want casual or nice? He said something comfortable but nice. I picked a place and sent him a link to the restaurants site so he could check it out. He booked the reservation. And now a 1 1/2 months later, apparently is still complaining to his roommate about it. I might add we only ended up having one more date after that. He had a LOT of issues, lol! Anyway, what do you cubs think? Who should pay?  |
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03-07-2010, 07:16 PM
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It's a good question, WW - but are you referring to a first face-to-face meeting?
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03-07-2010, 07:19 PM
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Yes luna. A first face to face real live in-person date, haha!
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03-07-2010, 07:23 PM
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In the case of M/F dates, the guy pays. Unless the woman asked the guy out, then it's half and half. Edit: Also, if neither of you have the money, dine and dash.
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03-07-2010, 07:53 PM
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Half and Half. I don't want to be used for a free dinner =(.
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03-07-2010, 08:21 PM
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If a guy messages me and asks me out then I am going to assume he is the one paying since he did the asking. On the other hand if we have been talking and have decided to meet for the first time then I'm coming expecting to pay for my own food etc. the only time I will pay for the guy is if I asked him out on a date. I do not consider a first meet up, let's see if we hit it off, a real date unless we are meeting for dinner, he is paying and all way made clear ahead of time. I think a happy hour meet and greet have a drink and an appetizer is a much less stressful way of meeting someone for both parties. WnW I think a lot of younger guys assume that cougars are well off older women who are just waiting to throw their money away on any young guy who they deem worthy of meeting up with... there goes that media hype again.  On a side note (while I was having a temporary lapse in judgment and went on a blind date with someone my own age) I drink very expensive drinks and actually had a man say "wow I'm glad you didn't order another one" while he was paying the check... p.s. I have tried that DnD 8ball and got chased by the cops while trying to run through a neighborhood into some woods. roflmao it was quite a few years ago though! |
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03-07-2010, 08:45 PM
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Your police actualy do work? Ours show up after a burgalry when they cba.
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03-07-2010, 09:04 PM
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haha Cops actually chase you for that? That's actually pretty stupid... Anyways, I'm a fairly cheap date 'cause I don't eat much... I do drink quite a bit though, so nobody should take me to a bar. hahaha
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03-07-2010, 11:00 PM
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Personally, I don't even want to have a meal for a first meeting - coffee or a glass of wine, and conversation is fine: that way the meeting can be as short or long as desirable, and I don't have to deal w/ snarky attitudes about being "used for food". I can't bear the idea of trying to eat and digest with someone I'm not already feeling good about, yuck.
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03-08-2010, 02:28 AM
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A first meet shouldnt be a full dinner or the like... I agree that for a very first face to face conversation it is more suitable to just have a drink or glass of wine, maybe even a small snack. Just to get the vibe... In regards of paying the bill... the above scenario shouldnt run more than 25-30$ p.P and it shouldnt break anyones bank. Thats usually the price of a Cobb Salad in a good restaurant.  So the guy could just as well pay for traditional reasons - but in the end it all depends on various things.
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