CUBS - Who should pay for the date?

[wetnwild]

Flymaster, how can you possibly say how much the above scenario should cost?? There are SO many variations in restaurants and SO many variations depending on the area one lives in also! In my city alone you could pay anywhere from $45 for a decent dinner for two to well over $300 I'm sure (if you ordered a bottle of wine). There are literally HUNDREDS of restaurants just in my city alone. I have no idea what the US price is that you quoted there but what may not break YOUR bank COULD break someone elses! And who said anything about a Cobb salad? We both ordered reasonably priced fish entrees.

And yes, maybe dinner isn't the best choice on a first date but that is what my date insisted on. The thread isn't about where to go or not to go on a date, but just simply asking who should pay in the case of the man asking the woman out.

I have asked 2 cub friends of mine this same question now. One said he ALWAYS pays, whether its the first date or the hundredth. The other said he finds it sexy when the woman offers to pay but that doesn't mean he would let her.

[flymaster]

That is why I said 'not' Dinner but a few drinks. I dont know how much you can drink but after 3 drinks I would say for myself that on a "first meeting" that should be pretty much it not to give the impression of an alcoholic (except you get to the point where you dont care anymore). To bring wine into play is always a different game, it can be 50$ a bottle or 500$ a bottle. Expensive wine is not really suitable for a first meet IMHO except someone really doesnt have to care about money. You never know if it makes your date uncomfortable (whoever pays in the end) to have a few hundred dollar wine bottle. And even if I run it as business expense, to play Mr Bigshot is sometimes not the best impression to leave.

If I ask someone out I pay. Easy as that. I sometimes use more words than necessary !

[andy1338]

500 american moneys! That is good suit money.

[jasonm519]

I tend to pay unless they asked me and I specificly told them I had no money at the time, in which case I either pay them back or get the next one ;]

[8ball]

Personally, I hate actual dates. I prefer to just sit in a park on a sunny afternoon with a box of wine or some quarts and roll a joe. That, or go to a show at night....


It usually only costs like $20 (except the shows, which are free for me), and it's the best representation of what I like to do so I don't look like a fake. ahah

[sharps]

Half and half. Both people paying for dinner should be a small price to pay for each others company.

[rawshark]

I like to pay. I think it shows you're happy to have whoever it is with you for company. I'm probably a little old fashioned in that sense though

[lunamor]

It's polite for the woman to offer to pay half - it's polite for the man to refuse the offer

[lynda]

I am a little old fashioned too but times change and rolling with the flow. Not all older women have bunches of money the way some of the cubs like to think but that does not mean we can not take care of ourselves. I agree with Luna with a first meeting go for something to drink and a place you can stay short or long. We have all had some of those short ones and wished we had not gone to the trouble of getting dressed up hahaha. Houston makes a very good point in that if the cub wants to go to dinner then it should be understood about money. WW is right about the guys in school and just starting their careers and do not have lots of money available. I know ladies and guys do not want to be embarrassed when talking money but better to understand before than to get somewhere and come paying the check and

[brookboy]

if the guy asks the lady out then the guy pays - simple for me.