Feelin a lil put out : (

[robthenurse]

ive been feelin just a little "unwanted" (for lack of a better word lol) due to the surprising lack of response to my messages back on the "main" side. ive messaged a few women whos profiles (that i took the time to read mind you) and sent them a message, i was polite and i have a pic and a filled out profile the least i could get is a polite , Your not my type mail am i just being oversensitive or am i justified in feeling ignored??? : (

[wetnwild]

I think you are justified in feeling ignored but let me try to explain it from my point of view. Now remember, this is only MY personal opinion, I am not going to try and speak for the other ladies here.

When I first joined this site I thought the polite thing to do was to answer everyone's email with a polite no thank you or whatever. Well I found out very quickly there are not enough hours in the day. If I respond back with something like that I usually get a SECOND message from the guy saying something like "why am I not your type" or something to that affect. I get several emails every single day (as I'm sure many of the other ladies on here do as well). So by the time I'm getting these SECOND emails from guys I'm not interested in I am also getting a mailbox full of NEW messages from more guys. Make sense? I'm not trying to boast or anything, just explaining that for some of us, it just isn't an option to try and respond to all the emails. I just gave up and I know it seems rude or whatever, but honestly, I just don't have the time to respond to each and every single email I get.

[gypsyred]

You are right of course. Rob, that the best thing to do is respond, because, after all you took the time to write. I also did the same thing as WW, believing that I didn't want to hurt anybody's feelings...so I never let anyone down. but it bacame very apparent that I would not get a moment's rest if I continued to do that...not enough hours in the day...and the ones that I really wanted to get to know were constantly interrupted by chat screens popping up. It got way out of control. I then gave myself permission to just not say anything...it doesn't necessarily mean I'm not interested...it just means I'm not going to pursue it now.

[lynda]

I totally agree with WW and it has no reflection on anyone. I do try to answer as many messages as possible and when I say no thank you then if they sent something back I just do not answer it. Us ladies have the same in that guys do not answer us everytime so do not take it to heart. There is a lot of nice ladies on the cougar site it may take culling through the bad to get to the good just like we do with the guys. If you are being respectful and not rude then you should not have a problem.

[yakimaboomer]

I m the odd one here, I just do not answer p/ms...reason...do not want to get involved with anyone...not that you guys are nice, and all, just got out of relationshio that was far from perfect and need a breather.

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by lynda

I do try to answer as many messages as possible and when I say no thank you then if they sent something back I just do not answer it.

Yes, so do I.

[mizbehavin]

Don't give up Rob As the ladies said, there's just not enough hours in the day, which may mean that those ladies you're messaging may not have had the time to come back on the site, or they're just overwhelmed at the moment. Just don't give up!

[houstoncougar]

with the ladies it's the same tactic I use. I have mentioned this before and suggested to admin that they put a quick response thing in the email as an option something like "thanks for your email but I'm not interested good luck in your search" or whatever which would make it easy to reply but it was never addressed.

[robthenurse]

Thanks ladies that actually makes me feel much better lol

[startpoint]

Do not give up trying, I am sure that there is someone out there for you. I know how you feel about gorgeus cougars living so far away. What a pity I am so scared of flying.