Cougar PUA guide?

[cleoquel]

Is there such a thing as a cougar pick-up guide (and I mean a woman actively seeking men her junior), similar to the way books like The Game have had an effect on men picking up women? Anybody heard of one like it?

[buni]

yeah...might come in handy

[cleoquel]

Okay, so who here has read "the Game" and is familiar w/ the lingo--. what I imagine is that we discuss what lingo is relevant to us versus what is not--that would be a good discussion point.

I don't think it's all 100% translatable-- the fun is finding out what needs to be refined, but I think there's some basics that are keepable, such as IOI=indicators of attraction.

The notion of "peacocking" is especially interesting to me. In The Game, and in male PUA, it's wearing something outrageous that gets attention. What peacock items do you/we wear when we're on the hunt and want to get noticed?--me, it's a certain pair of purple tight denim jeans, and sometimes a choker necklace with pink beads.

[klasik]

That book is no longer relevant to the pua community. It's only real significance was that it brought a relatively small community to the attention of the mainstream audience.

I'll tell you more later but I need to go to work now.

[houstoncougar]

This was posted in an article on the home page of goC under an article on Cougar's preying on younger men check it out and see if it is what you're looking for...

Canadian author Valerie Gibson who wrote the book "Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men."

[cleoquel]

Regarding Gibson's book-- Amazon lists it with pretty awful reviews, and that it has such focus on the physical, maintaining youthful looks thru cosmetology, plastic surgery, etc. Not really a book about inner game or the social psychology of seeking the company of younger men.

[klasik]

If you ask a PUA what book a woman should read, they will most often reply "Why Men Love *****es" by Sherry Argov.

However, the best way to learn about attracting men is PRACTICE. I know most people find that scary, but what made the PUA community so radical is that is was based on trial and error, and not the truisms of conventional wisdom. You'll find a million gurus who claim that they have the allmighty secret that will give you whatever you want, but the truth is that EXPERIENCE is the only way to improve. (Even if you read PUA books, they won't help you unless you try them out.)

[houstoncougar]

I don't think you need a guide either you just need to be able to identify who is interested in the ow/ym relationship. That has been and will continue to be my biggest problem. If I could tell right off that a man is interested in an older women's attention then I can take it from there thank you very much! I totally agree with Tarni's last comment.

[cleoquel]

I really appreciate this-- it's true that what made the PUA community new, and not just a loosely associated "book club" was its basis in trial and error--going out into the field. I also appreciate that the message to that community went beyond "be nice, good girls will notice" and instead said look around, PICK a target... because it says to that community not only are you good enough to attract the attention of a woman, but here's how you attract the attention of a particular woman.

That said, that's why I think it's a given that a cougar guide is in the mental-works. I can put myself out there gaining new cubs on many different websites and find nterested young men who want to try out the experience once or twice--but it isn't real game. Real game is a shot gun, not a granade. It's introducing the cougar experience to a particular male, or set of males who may not have previously thought about it, but gaining their interest. ( I hope no one is offended by my use of the word game--I am building on a previous idea here, where game means an understanding of social dynamics in public settings. It also denotes not just taking the first interested person--it is a learned skill to attract a particular quality of partner).