Mauled by a Cougar

[klasik]

Guess a short introduction is in order, 19 and studying in college. I have never done cougar dating before. Not that I was against it, I just hadn't considered it.

Went to a house party last night with all kinds of people, and got involved in a game of twister (you know how those always go.) There were five players: one looked like Mr. Clean, another had kind of a nerdy Zac Efron going for him, third was a cougar who had red curly hair, forth was me, and the last was a grandma who looked way too old to be playing. Anyways, grandma got elimenated pretty quick and so did Zac Efron. I was playing pretty well and Mr. Clean (who was clearly having difficulties) said "That young punk hasn't even broke a sweat!" So then Cougar said "I'll stop him!" So then cougar started playing dirty and whenever she was told put an apendage on a color, she would always choose a color right next to or under me. She ended up getting her ass right underneath my face. This interfered with my strategy so I ended up falling down on top of cougar, which knocked her down and made Mr. Clean the winner.

I was thinking I'd just walk away from it all but Cougar took my hand and then we went to the dining room where all the food was and she said "I want you to taste some of my pie" with smirk on her face (I guess that was innuendo.) And I said okay just to be polite. So then she said "close your eyes" and so I did and she sat me down and put some apple pie in my mouth and I said "that was yummy" and she said "Well a big guy like you is going to need more to eat." and she put a brownie in my mouth. And I spent about 10 minutes with my eyes closed while the cougar fed me. I was wondering "What the hell is she doing that for?" and then I realized.

So then we starting talking about music and she said she liked Kanye West (I guess she was trying to be cool) and I said Kanye sucks. And then she asked me about my music tastes and I said I liked country and hip-hop and then we started talking about everything and we were chatting for really long time and she said "hey my son likes hip-hop and I've been thinking of what to get him for Christmas". At this point I got suspicious and looked at her hands but no wedding ring. And then she mentioned some group that I'd never heard of and asked me to listen to it and tell me what I thought. I said "Okay, is it on your iPhone." She said "No, it's at my house. Come on, it's just around the block." I should note that at this point I was really attracted to cougar and the thought of going to her house sounded enjoyable. So she took me to her car and we drove off. Well, "around the block turned" out to be halfway across town and when I got there I knew I was probably not going home that night.

Anyways when we got there she asked my if I wanted a drink and I said "no thanks" but she poured me some wine anyways "just in case." Then we chatted some more for a bit and the she put on the CD she had mentioned. I said it wasn't half bad and she said that it was dancing music and that she wanted to dance with me. I said it felt kind of wierd dancing by myself and she said I wasn't dancing by myself I was dancing with her. Then she started doing her own sexy little hip-hop dance and I joined in and by the end of the song she was grinding on me. And then she said she had just bought some new clothes and she wanted a guys opinion on how they looked. So I said okay and she went to her bedroom and I waited in kitchen for a while, drank some of her wine. Then she called me up to her bedroom and wouldn't you know it, she was wearing lingerie. With the price tag still on.

At this point I got scared cause I wasn't planning on having sex on the first date. I like relationships, not quick flings. So I said "It's getting late, why don't you give me your phone number and we can go out for lunch this weekend. Then she said that that would ruin the moment and that we should just have sex now and then trade numbers. And I was like "I don't like having sex on the first date." And started pressing herself against me saying "Who told you this was a date?"

Me: I'm not the kind of guy to have sex with a woman I've only known a few hours.
Cougar: Well, I can change that.
Me: Umm...no I'd really rather wait until we're more comfortable with each other.
Cougar: I'm perfectly comfortable.

So at this point I figure I need to be more direct cause Mr. Curly Cougar kept beating around the bush.
Me: Look I've had a great time tonight, and I'd really like to see you again, but I'm not having sex tonight.
Cougar: Well you could have told me that a few hours ago.
Me: Excuse me?
Cougar: Most guys your age aren't afraid of a little pussy. I spent my whole evening on you and this is how you repay me?
Me: I guess I better go home now.
Cougar: I guess you shouldn't mislead women about your intentions.

At this point I decided it wasn't even worth talking to cougar anymore. I just went outside, tried calling my roomate, but he wouldn't answer. Tried calling my friends but only one was available. It pretty embarassing having to be picked up from a females house. And I was pretty depressed about it cause I had big hopes she would be a fun girlfriend. Oh well.

I guess I just wanted to ask yall why she did this and what I should have done differently. Is it possible to have a relationship with an older woman? Like I said, I'd never even considered it before yesterday.

Thanks.........

[sweetprince]

IMHO it sounds rather like a work of your imagination than a reality. But it's only my humble opinion. Thought if it was a real, please keep in mind cougars are human beings too - they need some sex too. Maybe she was going too fast or maybe you looked at her with so glazy eyes so that she lost control?

[klasik]

Ummm...no it was real. Sorry to go into such detail but it was a long night. Do you see anyone place where I went wrong or was I just stupid?

[sbrdbnt]

Originally Posted by klasik

Ummm...no it was real. Sorry to go into such detail but it was a long night. Do you see anyone place where I went wrong or was I just stupid?

The answer to your question depends on what you and her was looking for.

You: Not looking to have sex with someone you just met.
Her: Ready to rip your clothes off if you let her.

You: Relationship minded.
Her: Probably not.

Chances are you would have been a fling. It might've only been for the night, or a few nights, but somewhere I'm not seeing where she's looking to get to know you.

If you were looking for sex, you screwed up.
If you were looking for a relationship, you didn't do anything wrong. There was a very slim chance of a relationship happening.

Read over your post the next day and it will all make sense.

[dverdier]

Dang son. Thats intense. Definitely probably a good thing you didn't go through with it because chances are she probably has done that more than a few times. I guess you could take it as a compliment?

[houstoncougar]

You can not possibly expect anyone to believe that you left a party with an older woman late at night to go to her home and you were unaware that she was going to expect sex. That is absolutely ridiculous unless you're like 12. I don't care what age you are if you voluntarily leave a party with a person of the opposite sex to go to their home you are doing so with the impression of putting out. You don't just take off and go places with strangers unless you are a dare devil, crazy, a doper, a slut or a man *****. There was never any indication before you left that she was at all interested in a relationship. For goodness sakes you spent at least ten minutes having food foreplay with her! This reminds me of a story from one of those erotic literature sites except you didn't play your part. But hey at least you got to meet the media's definition of a cougar.

[buni]

I don't think you did anything wrong. I think you wanted to have a good time and get to know her.. and her definition of a 'good time' was different than yours.
It is probably better that you didn't do anything with her because you most likely will have gotten hurt in the long run.

[dverdier]

Eh, but houstoncougar's got a good point too. The signs were pretty evident, and even though you you told her you weren't putting out, I guess the best thing to do would be not to go home with her. Not your fault, still, but I guess its a lesson learned.

[klasik]

You can not possibly expect anyone to believe that you left a party with an older woman late at night to go to her home and you were unaware that she was going to expect sex

Well I guess I kind of knew, but it wasn't at the front of my mind. She was just leading me along and I didn't want to ruin a good thing. Still, I should nipped this in the bud.