Im sick of the guys on this site!!!

[barbcast]

They are either...

A- YM who want only sex with older women and are disgusting about letting you know that.

B- Guys who tell you how much they like you and lead you on THEN bring up the sex, and you just KNOW they are WHACKING OFF while asking, some even LET YOU KNOW OUTRIGHT!!!

C- OLD guys who think they can "convert" you to liking them more. COME ON! If I wanted an old divorced guy I'd be elsewhere!!!

I'm really wondering if ANY young men want a relationship that goes somewhere besides the bed with a woman my age. Seems like that's a myth.

Have ANY of you here had SUCCESS with a LTR with a VYM? Even the one I deal with, and he's a BIG JERK, was treating me better than what I've found here so far... I'm starting to think NO ONE will EVER want me for anything substantial...

Sorry just venting.

[lunamor]

Barb, we've all had these experiences... and these moments of exasperation! Many of us are here basically for friendship with other women in the same situation -- some pleasant chat with nice guys we'll never get to meet is an extra

[vita]

Originally Posted by lunamor

Barb, we've all had these experiences... and these moments of exasperation! Many of us are here basically for friendship with other women in the same situation -- some pleasant chat with nice guys we'll never get to meet is an extra

Luna says it all perfectly in one short sentence.

This site is much easier to deal with if you have no expectations at all. And then you may get an occasional pleasant surprise.

Mine was how lovely most of the women on here are

[live2be]

Hi Barb, I guess we haven't meet untill now...

I am live2be, planning to become 'Almost done 2be'..

[barbcast]

I don't have expectations...

But it's hard facing the exact OPPOSITE of what you would LIKE to have happen. I really don't care if I meet someone or not, but the NEGATIVE experiences run rampant here!!!

I guess all of you have had similar stuff going on, and commiserate?

Still doesn't make it any easier to believe that any young man is looking for a serious relationship with one of us... SOOO many IM me and are like, "So, are you a true cougar"... ME... Whats that? Him: A hot older woman looking to have intimate encounters with young men."

YIKES, is THAT how they ALL see us? I've never been that, never will be.

I don't consider myself a "cougar" if thats what it actually is... I met a young man a couple of years ago, before that I would NEVER have considered having a relationship with one. He's still in my life, and sometimes I wanna hit him over the head to get rid of him because he drives me crazy, but there's something good there too.

He's open about not wanting more than casual friendship and occasional sex, and I ACCEPT that with him because it is what it is. Maybe it will change, maybe not. Mentally he's like 15 anyway, NOT ready to be a man yet at 20. Sheltered by mom all that stuff.

But the IDEA that there are different types of YM, someone who like the Famous Ashton Kutcher, could actually FALL IN LOVE AND MARRY someone 15 years older... Hollywood fakery? Or possible?

Cause honestly, I'm not looking for "FUN"... I have that with my 20 year old, and a lot more emotionally. He's a great friend and great lover.

But I want MORE. I want someone to wake up to, someone to fall asleep with, someone who wants me to be the first voice he hears, the last he hears, each day.

Is THAT asking too much?

[barbcast]

Originally Posted by live2be

Hi Barb, I guess we haven't meet untill now...

I am live2be, planning to become 'Almost done 2be'..

Um, I don't understand what that means?

[vita]

Originally Posted by barbcast

But I want MORE. I want someone to wake up to, someone to fall asleep with, someone who wants me to be the first voice he hears, the last he hears, each day.

Is THAT asking too much?

It's certainly not asking too much and it's perfectly reasonable. It's a hard question to answer but at least two women on these forums have said they have had long-term relationships with younger men..I think both met them online but I'm not sure. One definitely.

And so it seems to be very rare but possible.

[bayridgebabe]

More like nearly IMPOSSIBLE IMHO. Then again I was with a man not a boy who was 36 when I was 55 (19 year difference) for almost 6 months. Why we broke up is another story. Most of you ladies wouldn't consider him a cub, lol. To me the 19 year difference validated that for me. NO, I did not meet him on here (of course I didn't) as far as I'm concerned this site SUCKS a big one for actually meeting any younger man of substance & actually having an OW/YM relationship.

[lynda]

Barb, I am one of them that had a 7yr relationship with someone 30yrs younger so it is possible to meet someone and have that substance. It is not easy finding it but it is there so do not give up. This site I have met a few good guys here but most is just what you have described.

[aliasangel]

It is possible but the internet is probably the most challenging way to do it! I've had long term meaningful relationships with younger men up to 20 years younger but I didn't meet them online. I met them in real life and things developed naturally. I think many of the younger ones online are attracted to the fact that they can hide behind their computer screen and behave in ways they would never behave face to face. It's the perfect medium for those that prefer cybersex for whatever reason. I look at the site in the same way Luna does. It's nice to compare notes with other women living the same lifestyle......the pleasant surprises here and there are a bonus. Who knows, one of those surprises might just show up in my area sometime. *__*