Seeking your comments - "Forever or For a Few Years"

[mslisa]

I'm really interested in hearing from you, especially the ladies out there.
I'm kind of new to this cougar/cub thing. I'm wondering what you have seen or expereinced yourselves. Can a cougar/cub relationship endure or is it destined to end - especially as the woman ages? There seems to be conflicting studies out there. I've seen some studies that even suggest the infidellity rate is higher than "typical" too? I'm just curious . . .
Thank you!
Lisa

[hollywood213]

Sometimes you can't put bearing on a genuine connection and maturity. There is a lot to be taken into consideration, as far getting into something deep with a cougar/cub. I will say this though, you can speculate and debate until we're blue in the face, about the pros/cons/what ifs. But realistically, there's only one way to find out.

Just put it on the table and be cut and dry about what you want and expect. They accept it or reject it. Either way, they'll respect it.

[lynda]

Hi Lisa and welcome to the forum. I happen to be one of the cougars that has had a longterm relationship. I met my cub when he was 22 and I was 52 from there we stayed together for 7yrs with no problems and our parting just happened to come because of his job taking him to another state but we are still very good friends. It is 10yrs now that we have known each other and he still adores me but we felt it was not fair to either of us to have a commitment to someone in another state and not be able to date someone else if we wanted. So yes it is possible with the right one and he always made me feel like I was sexy and special. Guys that is the key to your part in an older woman and younger man relationship making her feel special if you do it will all come back to you 10 fold.

Very true to lay it all out there to let the other person know what you look for. If the cub is only looking for sex/naughty talk/cam/c*rap then I just simply say you need to talk to someone else. It cuts through the BS so both can get on about their business. It just gives the opportunity to move along and be able to find that right one to talk to.

[susanlb50]

I was in a marriage with a man 3 years older then me for 17 years and it ended, so no matter what the age, it either works or it doesn't...I'm hoping to find the one that will work and if he's younger...yay!

[lunamor]

Every relationship "is" until it "isn't" anymore - and no matter whether you're dating or married, it's still always day-to-day.

[houstoncougar]

day to day and nothing is forever...

[mslisa]

Thanks ladies!
Indeed, human beings and relationships are compicated, regardless of age.
As a writer, I think there's a book here somewhere. I'm always intrigued by other people who refuse to fit a traditional "mold" - having that personality myself. I don't like sensationalism, but I love to celebrate, real, vibrant, interesting people. I'm looking forward to meeting some of those people here.
Thanks again for sharing your expereinces.
Lisa

[mslisa]

Sorry, Hollywood. I sould have said "Thanks Ladies and Hollywood" (blushing).
I hoped for comments from ladies; it was "icing" to hear from a guy. I think your comments were valid too. All relationships have common challenges, but I think whenever a couple goes against the "norm", whether it is age, race, religion, culture, etc, it adds some additional dimensions to the relationship. I'm interested in the attraction first, and then how the couple deals with those age dimensions.
Thanks!
Lisa