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Originally Posted by baron_de_egypte  these emails were two years b4 knowing me. |
A question I have here is, how much of the email communications is there that occurred before you and her got together? If these emails were from before you got involved, basically, just ignore them. They are her past, and she may have wanted (or indeed did) to do the things contained in the emails.
She *had* 6 boyfriends? These are in her past, except one which may still be a friend? He's an ex-fiance, and she told you about him in the beginning?
Let's be clear here, it's completely fine for someone to remain friends with an ex (and an ex-fiancee at that), if it stays as friends.
In her emails (which should be private, but what is done is done...) is there any indication that she might be cheating?
What has she done specifically that would imply she had cheated or may be cheating?
If I'm interpreting your post correctly, you have trust and insecurity issues. She may not have done anything wrong, particularly if all that stuff you've found out about is all in her past.
What did she lie about? Having 6 prior boyfriends (not including any that were pre-email)? She's how old? Did you specifically ask her about her dating history? If you didn't, and she didn't volunteer that information, she didn't lie about it. She probably assumed that because of her age, you would probably know that she's had boyfriends before you. If you had asked about it, and she hid it, yea, that's a bit of a lie.
As to why she married you, only one person can answer that. HER.
A few more details would be helpful. If I misunderstood anything, please clarify.
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Originally Posted by baron_de_egypte hello everybody;
i wrote this article in the blog and i write it again her cuz i am really hurted. they say that love is the true reward of love, but with me " deception and treason are the best reward of love".
i feel i am in a deep trouble so please tell me what to do.
i knew a cougar who is 18 years older than me, we spoke and we liked each others. then, we planned to stay together forever instead of short term relationships and we decided to get married. before marriage, she told me about a friend of hers, a male friend, and that she ended up completely with all the three previous boyfriends. one day, i could steal her email password and guess what!!!!
she had about 6 boyfriends, but i don't know if there is one night stands or not, and that one of them is still in contact with her as a friend. in some emails, she was asking him to come to **** her for one month! but to say the truth, she asked him to bring his soul rather than his body and penis. these emails were two years b4 knowing me.
her close friend whom she told me about before turned to be her previous fiance, now i am very sure she slept with him before. she still have good relationship with him right now as a friend as she says. why did she lie to me like this? why did she marry me from the early beginning???
please tell me why did she marry me? and what can i do? did she commit a mistake, or is it me who looks always to the past rather than the present?
please help! |