For me, a lot depends on what is said in the initial message whether it's a box standard hello send to 100 other women, or a more crafty message sent to 50, and whether it is fine tuned to me and a few 10 others, or broadcast material to the masses -anything registering as female on the site. I'm a focused lady, so to grab my attention has to mean something new, not seen before! Like it was meant for me! A delicate and purposed made message to get me think "hmmm? who's that?" And as regards the flurry of pop up windows that all come at once as soon as I registered online begging for (free) sex chat, I tend to get bored, most of the times I'll just say "I'm busy! Work commitment!" Done it before chatting endlessly like that! Being polite, and asking the lady if she would not mind to spend a bit of time with you, and most of all remaining a gentleman should do the trick. Common sense! Don't forget that women are used to get their attention distracted, and to see men using different strategies and subterfuges to get them interested in them all the time! Real and online! I think that should help you a little on the right track!  |