Hi Templar,
I think it's wonderful that you're questioning the morals and dictates of society, because the only thing that really matters at the end of the day, is how do YOU feel? What's really in your heart? If you are drawn to older women, sure sex can be a part of it (we all hope so!), but maybe it's that you really can see us and appreciate us in a different way, a way that means so much to us too.
And you know, it's the same thing in reverse, people wondering why we are interested in younger guys. Personally, I really don't care what they think because they haven't lived my life. I've really considered this a lot, and am very clear now about why I want to date younger men. (more on that another time if there's interest)
It isn't about the end result - it isn't about marriage etc. It's about two people who know they are attracted, and follow their hearts.
My advice, if I may give it, is to keep questioning your values, but really look deep inside and find what you KNOW to be true. And that will always lead you to wonderful experiences, and great relationships.
It really really is OK to be attracted to older women - and for us to be attracted to younger men. There are many many reasons, and it's up to us to find the positives and make it work, however we want. It's time for new formulas for relationship!
Good luck!
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